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post #51 of 56
10/23/07 at 10:54am
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Originally Posted by DaveB
This might be a singles vs. marrieds thing, too, though. I knew guys who were very prone to talk about girls they'd slept with and were sleeping with when I was in college and in my early 20s. Now that my friends and I are older and most of us married, there's a lot less of this talk. I don't think it's due to any sort of post-marriage sexual drop-off; it's just that you don't want to hear about what your friend does with his wife, and he probably doesn't want to hear what you do with yours.
Yeah, I'd have to agree with that. At the risk of generalizing, I think guys are more likely to talk about past sexual exploits in large part because their friends don't know the girls, or if they do it's way in the past. But if you're in a relationship, there's something about discussing your current sex life that seems to cross that unspoken guy code line regarding a friend's wife/girlfriend. On the other hand, I think women might be more open to discussing current relationships because they're more interested in sharing in the relationship, which includes all the sex talk (not just the physical stuff but its bearing on intimacy, etc.). Guys aren't really like that, for better or worse.

I don't know; I'm probably over-analyzing it, but I know this holds true for the Fiancee and myself with our respective friends.


ETA: As an aside, it doesn't really creep me out, but the only thing that bugs me about the terms of art is when someone uses "making love" for what's clearly a "fuck" situation. Like a one night stand. "Yeah, I picked this chick up at Madam's Organ and we went back to my place to make love. I was working it under the blacklight, bro. All over her face. Next morning I dropped her off at the bus station." Mmmm, that's baby-making intimacy!
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post #52 of 56
10/23/07 at 1:32pm
I can't help cracking up at just reading, "Making Love? Bionic Assbone."
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post #53 of 56
10/23/07 at 3:14pm
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Originally Posted by DaveB
This might be a singles vs. marrieds thing, too, though. I knew guys who were very prone to talk about girls they'd slept with and were sleeping with when I was in college and in my early 20s. Now that my friends and I are older and most of us married, there's a lot less of this talk. I don't think it's due to any sort of post-marriage sexual drop-off; it's just that you don't want to hear about what your friend does with his wife, and he probably doesn't want to hear what you do with yours.

Also, if there's sex stuff to be talked about, it makes more sense to do that talking with your husband or wife. In fact, any married guy who talks sex a lot with his friends is probably sending up a red flag that the marriage is probably a bit of a mess, because it probably means he can't talk to her about this stuff.
I think part of it is that as we get older and more of our friends get in to
permanent relationships we start to hang out together as couples. You are now friends with both members of the relationship or, at the very least, consistently social with both. It changes the dynamic to talk about getting some when you are likely going to be hanging out with both people a lot.

I know amongst our friends we talk about sex more as a general topic then about it specifics ie) "it's okay to enjoy a little SM" versus "So, Bob tied me up last night and was Donkey Punching me..."
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post #54 of 56
10/23/07 at 3:57pm
Jumping on the bandwagon a little late, but I always broke it down like this:

Making love: missionary
Having sex: woman on top
Fucking: doggy style

With variations in-between, of course. Don't ask me why I think that, it just sorta made sense...
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post #55 of 56
10/23/07 at 5:34pm
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Originally Posted by Ryan S~
I think part of it is that as we get older and more of our friends get in to
permanent relationships we start to hang out together as couples. You are now friends with both members of the relationship or, at the very least, consistently social with both. It changes the dynamic to talk about getting some when you are likely going to be hanging out with both people a lot.
I agree w/ that. I know I'd feel really weird knowing details about my friends' wives. But what I wonder is why women don't feel the same, knowing some of what my wife's shared w/ her girlfriends, and who she's shared it with. I've never caught any of them looking at me funny.
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post #56 of 56
10/29/07 at 6:03pm
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Originally Posted by dynamotv
I always thought it was "The Newlywed Game" they said that on...
Trudat.



Making love/f**king? I call it "Business Time". Especially when conditions are perfect... and because I'm married.
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