How much sex is really too much sex?

Everybody is different and every interpersonal dynamic is different. To put a blanket statement over what's a reasonable amount of sex would be unrealistic. My personal opinion...if you both are happy, it can never be excessive.

Too much sex is when it causes your heart to stop.

Brag, brag, brag.

Life is too short to worry about having too much sex. Sex is good for you on every level of your existence, just keep having fun man.

Put it this way, if it falls off while doing it. You're having too much.

When you get third degree rub burns, stop.

there is never too much really, just keep going until your body gives out..ha

If smoke is coming off of you or your partner's genitals. Stop.

If outside of that time of month either one of you start spurting blood, stop. Or at least film it and send it into the New England Journal of Medicine.

I'm celibate and have dedicated my sexual desires to Nature.: Never happens.


I project my lust onto inanimate objects.

I'm content with the amount of sex that I get in my marriage...but would I like more? Absolutely. I don't obsess about it, though.

Much.

Oh, so YOU were the guy fucking his picnic table! You perv.

I'm seconding Booth's approach to this question: As long as you two are enjoying it, don't worry about it. Life is short and painful and there are plenty of people waiting in the wings to rain on your parade on those rare occasions in life when things are going well. Save that work for them and enjoy what you have going on while it lasts.

Personally, I find my enthusiasm for sex depends on the situation. For instance, I know this one girl who used to live in a co-op near campus and we go at it all night long every single time she's in town. Sounds great, right? No. She scares the fuck out of me. She makes me look sane by comparison, I really don't like her outside of the bedroom, and I always feel a tinge of guilt afterwards. Because of that, I'm grateful when she leaves town.

On the other hand, there is this other girl who I immensely enjoy spending time with and things are pretty much the same as with the girl above, only without the crazy, dislike, and guilt. I never get enough of her and her company is one of the few aspects of college life I already know I'm genuinely going to miss after graduation.

As long as your situation matches girl#2 more than girl#1, I say don't analyze it too much and godspeed. (Edited for a couple typos.)

As long as you're not cheating on each other then I don't see how too much is too much.

Though if you can't focus on your job when you're at work because all you think about is getting home and nailing your significant other then there might be a case of having too much and being a sexaholic. And if you're having sex 4-5 times a day could there be a chance you wear the "romance" out too fast and all the lust and desire to have sex with each other goes away?

Oh screw you. That picnic table was askin' for it all fuckin' night!

Billylove: Lawn Furniture fucker

For me it all depends on the person I'm with. If I'm in love I'll molest the guy as often as humanly possible. Otherwise meh, whenever I'm bored.

I guess I'm the only still life fucker. More for me I guess.

You are mistaken.

Speaking as an elder chewer I can say that my experience is that the ladies, as they grow older, not only get more skilled at sex, but their desire for it tends to increase. It's sort of a cosmic joke that men tend to decrease in sexual appetite while the ladies reach their peak about the time we start taking a more serious interest in yardwork and televised sports.

Assuming you have a strong relationship, and that you're willing to work on the sex thing as you go along, I believe that any and all sex you can get from your partner is enough. And...again, from personal experience...if you slack off and *don't* give them the amount of sex they want, they think it's a sign there's something wrong with the relationship. So don't let that happen, k?

I've been with the same person for 15 years.
More than 2 or 3 times a week is too much.
For me.

It's alright, because only masturbating turns you blind.

You measure how many times you shit on a per week basis?

Well it's pretty advisable to stop if you experience swelling or FUCKING BLISTERS from the RUB BURN!

I had to go with "God! When was the last time?! Can someone help?: Few times a year". Not by choice.

I've found it's all good as long as both people have similar sex drives. If one tends to want it more than the other (or if they start out doing it lots, and one of them kind of expects that to continue while the other loses interest steadily until it's down to once a fucking month or so not that I'm bitter), then you have a problem.

Is it true that if you don't use it, your lose it?

Look, I told you already...I have a headache.

I love this post. I confess, it took me a second to get it, but it's awesome.

I agree with the previous people: as long as you're both happy, then it's not too much or too little.

The vast majority of people will be partnered to someone who has a different drive than they do. This means that you both have to come to a compromise: one person lives without a little and the other takes one for the team from time to time. The other key to this is that if you're the partner with the higher drive, work to do things which will make the partner with the lower drive more interested. That means that if your partner needs compliments, or romance, or having the dishes done, or the bills paid, or you to bring home sexy lingerie - try doing that if you want them to take one for the team that night.

Also, most relationships start out "hot and heavy" and gradually fade off. I don't think it's a fair representation if she is a 4 times a day and then goes to 4 times a year (a girl like that definitely needs to start ponying up her share), but most folks start somewhere closer to "every date" (which in reality is maybe 3x/wk). It may ramp up with moving in or honeymoon but everyone fades a little after 5-10 years when the twitterpated "squee!" wears off.

Paying bills is a turn on?

If I wanted my girl to take one from the team I'd be dating Annabel Chong.

Making it so your partner isn't so anxious (s)he can't concentrate on sex? Yes.

(This is the age of the foreclosure, my dear. I'm guessing that in the whole of the USA there are at least a few spouses for whom financial woes are giving them a "not tonight" headache.)

Are you talking about Pony Play? Sweet!

Score!
I'll put up a match.com profile with "pays bills" as my number one attribute.

Throw in "loves housekeeping, folding laundry, making beds, vacuuming, etc." and you'll be neck deep in the ladies, my lad.

IMO, it is possible to have too much, for two reasons. One's already been mentioned, that the romance & novelty may tend to wear off, especially if one or both partners aren't really expreimental. Same ol' same ol' syndrome can result very quickly if that's the case. The other has been mentioned jokingly, but seriously, if you get blisters or chafing regularly, that's a sign it's too much. This put a damper on the end of a wild weekend in Newport, Rhode Island for me and the Mrs., a few years ago, when we overdid it on Saturday. That was a long and uncomfortable (physically) ride home.

Check out any of the dating sites' men's profiles and you'll see "providing for my family" is commonly listed as an attribute.

But act like you hate it. Ironically, women really hate it when you're eager to please them. It shows weakness.

That's code for "Divorced, or possibly married right now".

Um, I wouldn't go that far. I love it when a guy is eager to please, it's just when you are so over eager that you become clingy, spineless, wishy washy, etc. that it becomes annoying.

Women love to be showered with affection, we just don't want you to lose your balls in the process.

I believe sex is best when you space it out a few days here and there between bouts. You kinda let all the sexual desires in you build up and it makes the next time alot more intimate.

When you do it a few times to day it would seem like a by the numbers, wham-bam type of thing.

What? What the fuck? What is this thing called "secks?" Who invented it?

How much is it? Where can I get it? Why have I never heard of it?

And look what happened to the last guy that couldn't please you...

Kinkiest Robaxacet ad ever?

My celibacy is the one constant of the universe.

See, I don't understand why she didn't stop at 250. That's a nice round number, but maybe there was an outstanding record that she just had to push her self the extra mile.

I knew that picture would come back in another thread somehow, well done.

Wait...so did you turn him into a wooden puppet, tie him up, or both?

Well written poll! 5 people actually voted that "Never Happens" is "too much sex"?