So... question time

Take your mind off cumming, and ask her to literally suck your dick. Some girls think it's all about gentle licks, and those are great for intercourse prep, but closing the deal is another matter. With sufficient pressure and rhythm you shouldn't have a problem. I find that focusing on giving pleasure at the same time can relieve any pressure I have about cumming, try fingering her while she is going down.

Give her a massage. Might I suggest the back to start with.

Uh, well, you see, BillyG has an affliction. The affliction is that he loves getting head...but nary a girl he has come across can finish him off. BillyG is the energizer bunny, and it sucks.

Seriously though, I've "suffered" from the same thing since I was 15. As embarrassing as this is, when I was 18 or 19 I went with my GF at the time to a psychologist that specialized in sex to talk about it, because it was making the GF feel inadequate. The best the shrink came up with was, don't jerk off. Which, ok I guess that makes sense...and I guess it helped a couple times.

What I found did work was trying something a little different where the finishing almost needs to happen quicker. Road head, on a subway, or in a closet at a get together and it's like a shotgun went off (poor girls). Just in bed or on the couch, well the girl is going to get arthritis.

Now that I have embarassed the hell out of myself I hope it helps. Take the girl for a ride down an empty stretch of freeway, and enjoy it.

I'd go with the Dyson, as it's design assures you there will be no loss of suction, but then again, I'm a married man.

REP, REP, REP!

All the more amusing as I bought my first Dyson on Monday for home (after using one at work for the last 6 years).

[Cue Devin]

...oh, and...

Same issue here. I have only had 2 girls be able to finish me off via fellatio. Everyone can get me decently close and I can pull the porn star trick of finishing myself off for the last 10 seconds, but I would like to have the lady complete the act herself from time to time.

A. 2. M.

Certainly finishes ME off.

We should all have such 'problems'.

Domingo, are you aware of the difference between what she's doing and what you need her to be doing? Can you articulate it? If the answer to these two questions is "yes," then just tell her. If she likes giving head, she probably won't mind suggestions as to how to improve the experience for you. Be straightforward and highly complimentary of what she's already doing and you should be fine.

Yep. If you want her to put a finger in your butt, then tell her.

Extasy and Cialis or Viagra.

Don't try to derail this thread, and since MissZooey posted here let's stay away from Cialis.

Beside, I'm trying to shill a Dyson vacuum cleaner to Domingo, so stop trying break my mojo.

MissZooey is the one who is absolutely correct here. Talk to her.

I had the same problem for a long time. Try not to care anymore about whether or not you can release in that manner and just go with it. Eventually, the stars will allign in such a way that it will just happen (she'll do a new move, and you'll be particularly sensitive that night) and you'll never have that problem again. Once I was able to cum that way the first time, I never had that problem again....and life was wonderful.

Hold the phone...you're gonna have to explain that one to me.

The Secret of Happiness is Cum.

Sister speaks the truth, as always. You might be the kind of guy who likes it rougher, and she's going gentler, or vice verse. Less pressure, more pressure - we're not mind readers. Just be sure to be diplomatic yet really nice when you say it, and it should be fine.

And also - and I say this with absolute seriousness, I'm not trying to be funny in the least - make sure during any kind of sex, fellatio, etc. that you're staying away from the booze. No "a few beers", no "A glass or two of wine to loosen up". None. You being sober as a judge will give Mr. Happy the maximum staying power that your girlfriend needs to work her magic. I used to have a boyfriend who would have a bunch of beers, then want me to blow him after giving himself a nice little case of whiskey-dick. And believe me, it used to just take forever. I mean for.ev.er - totally not fun for either of us, so don't do that.

Lisa, I know you specifically said you weren't trying to be funny, but whiskey dick is a glorious term that I shall now integrate into my daily life (even when not applicable) so for that I thank you.

I thought that I liked what Michael was doing to me, and that it felt different to Jack- more gentle. And more exciting. And I thought how different Michael was from Jack how much deeper his vision of life was. And, I thought Michael was a hedgehog and Jack was a fox. And then I thought Judy was a fox and Gabe was a hedgehog. And I thought about all the people I knew, and which were hedgehogs and which were foxes. Al Simon, our friend, was a hedgehog, and his wife Jenny was a hedgehog. And Cindy Salchime was a fox, and Luke Trinow was a hedgehog.

She should concentrate on the balls.

I disagree...the perineum is where it's at!!!

Thanks, but I didn't come up with that term - it's been around for a while. It's truer than you think - alcohol really impairs the functions, so that's a big "beware" for anyone thinking about nookie after a night of drinking. I mean, you still can do it, but it's far more pleasurable for both parties if you're sober.

We need more information.

Have you ever had trouble finishing with any other girls? Is this your first? If you answered "no" to the first question, then the girl probably just needs to work on her technique. If you answered yes to the second question, you may just not get all that turned on by blowjobs. That's the affliction I have. Not that I'll say no to one, but I also won't go out of my way to try and get one either.

Personally, I would rather go down on a girl than have a girl blow me. I get way more turned on when there's pussy in my face.

Speaking of which, have you tried to finish in a 69 position? That's about the only way I can cum during a blowjob.

Same thing goes for the opposite sex.

The key is finding that "magic" amount of intoxicant. Just the right amount will expand your senses and propell your lasting power into porn star territory. But its a dangerous game, because Lisa is right. Have even a sip (or toke) past that magic amount, and you're fucked. You will not be able to stay hard. And ofcourse, everyone's magic amount is different.

Good luck.

I know, but since he's specifically asking about fellatio in this topic, I brought it up in that context.

Completely true. An ex of mine was completely against anal while we were together (I wasn't really into it either, so no big loss). One random evening, a couple of drinks with a guy she was close friends with and a little experimentation led to her cheating on me and finding she loved it in the butt.

It also led to her being my ex.

Domingo, let sex be about more than you "finishing" and you're really going to get somewhere.

It's all about communication. If she wants to be a prude and not take suggestions, and you want a more sexual partner, you may have to move on.

Also, like Blofeld said, this isn't a one way ticket. Ask her what she wants to do, how she likes things.

Not being a smart ass. It's about the journey, not the destination. That's my point.

Oh, yep. You're too hung up on the result. Now, talk to her about what works/doesn't work, explore how to please each other, talk about sex and work to learn how to play each other like a Stradavarius ...

I see a mention of it being your first oral experiences. Is it her's as well? Not to pry, but I shall mention I fun position.

You on your knees, her on her side pleasing herself with one hand while operating on you with mouth and free hand. Yeah, not to be tried while drunk or even slightly buzzed, and could take coordination the first time so that she doesn't keep falling over onto you or her back. Girls are pleased, you get an extra show, and you can join in with her as well.

More physical/visual/aural stimulation = Peter North style.

Here's a fun trick:

Go down on her until she cums, then fuck for awhile. Don't blow your load though. And don't just jackhammer away at her. It's all about the motion and how you move your hips. Do this until the sensitivity in her clit goes down a bit, then go down on her again until she cums again. Then fuck again.

Try and see how many times you can make her cum before you can't handle it anymore.

And don't sweat it if you don't like blowjobs. Does she LOVE sucking dick? Because maybe she is just doing it to please you. If you're not getting what you want out of it, and she's just putting in the motions for no reason, a little communication could clear this whole thing up.

Remember too that everyone is different. She might be awesome at giving someone else head, but just isn't good at doing it to you. The girl I'm with now tried like crazy to make me cum that way, and it just wasn't working. She was self concious about it at first, but when I told her it just wasn't my thing, she was relieved for two reasons: 1. She wasn't necessarily bad at it. I was the problem. 2. She doesn't have to do it anymore.

Communication is the key though.

EDIT: Have you thought of essentially jerking off yourself, while she backs you up with a little kiss or lick here or there for added pleasure? Then you'll get the firmness / stroking that you know you like, plus she'll still be involved and making it better. Some girls also love watching guys jerk off (I guess for the same reason I enjoy watching a girl rub one out) so she might be way into this.

Yeah. I think you may be worrying to much. Of course she may be thinking what's wrong too and worrying too much.

Just do what I do and picture Bea Arthur giving it too you. Sends me over the top every time.

So make a fucking Powerpoint.

I see the problem here. You need to have Ripoll blow you. If you finish quickly... you're teh geh.

I prefer that to fucking or getting head. BY FAR my favorite thing to do sexually.

She can't get pregnant if she's on top, it's just gravity.

It's called the old Anal Surprise. Happens to everyone at least once.

You're gay for men.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEABld72UCM