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post #1 of 53
10/21/08 at 4:25am
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We were trying a long distance relationship for the better part of a year. She said she missed so much she couldn't take it. I didn't think she would do it.

I've never been dumped before. I've never felt like such a hollow failure of an unlikeable person in my life...
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post #2 of 53
10/21/08 at 4:43am
I recommend booze.
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post #3 of 53
10/21/08 at 4:45am
I miss fabfunk.
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post #4 of 53
10/21/08 at 4:53am
I miss Kabong. If he were here, he'd know what to do.

My dog is giving me shit.
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post #5 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:02am
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post #6 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:11am
Well, what did you expect?
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post #7 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:12am
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Originally Posted by Domingo View Post
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Honestly, what did you expect? It is not exactly a secret that threads like this will end in tears. Or awesome derailment.
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post #8 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:13am
My advice is to start drinking heavily.
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post #9 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:16am
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Good point.
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post #10 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:17am
Copious drinking + copious porn = full recovery.
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post #11 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:21am
I recommend long-distance rebound girl.
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post #12 of 53
10/21/08 at 5:59am
I disagree. Gay it up to the max.
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post #13 of 53
10/21/08 at 6:15am
Don't you have any real-life friends to dump this on? Why bother with an internet message board?

Get your mates together and go hit some parties. If you've been long-distancing for a year, you're probably ready for some short-distance pussy.
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post #14 of 53
10/21/08 at 6:17am
Tough luck dude. I started a similar thread about a year back and the best advice I got was this: keep yourself busy - whatever it takes to take your mind off the situation. You'll start feeling better soon enough.
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post #15 of 53
10/21/08 at 6:28am
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Not dumping this on my real life friends just yet because I'm a bit ashamed. I don't want to be the sympathy whore in day to day life so I do it here. I don't care about responses, dumbass opinions or words of kind support. I just needed to get it out.
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post #16 of 53
10/21/08 at 6:47am
Nothing to worry about then surely? Long distance girl means your friends'll never find out the truth. Tell 'em you dumped her because you were bored and enjoy a tasty beverage or 10.
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post #17 of 53
10/21/08 at 7:25am
Look at the bright side. At least you didn't have to dump her after finding out she was sleeping around.

Bitter? Who me?
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post #18 of 53
10/21/08 at 9:34am
Let the healing begin.
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post #19 of 53
10/21/08 at 9:37am
Long distance relationships almost never work. Everyone gets dumped at some point, chalk it up to experience and move on.

She was probably fucking someone else and that whole "missing you too much" is bullshit.

Feel better!

Edit: Oh, and don't hold out hope you'll get back together and everything will work out. It just makes it worse and only prolongs the pain.
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post #20 of 53
10/21/08 at 9:47am
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Originally Posted by The Cherry Poppin' Daddies
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
True dis.
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post #21 of 53
10/21/08 at 9:49am
What Shadows said. Use the money you would've spent on Christmas and Birthday presents for her and go enjoy yourself. Take a trip - weather's getting cold, so go hit one of those single getaways (Sandals, etc.). Shit, go to Vegas! Cheer yourself up, have some fun, etc. You'll be OK.
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post #22 of 53
10/21/08 at 9:57am
I dated a girl for four years in High School, and we attempted the whole long distance bullshit when she went to College. I'm surprised you made it a year, personally, so take some pride in that shit. Now, with that said...

Women have an easier time moving on with this shit, and when their the one doing the dumping, chances are she's already moved on (to another guy). Maybe it's because they don't have to put much effort into attracting other males. So, a) Don't hope to be friends, unless your really into beating the shit out of yourself emotionally b) accept the fact that it's over. I beat myself up for over a year attempting to stay friends/get back together with my ex, and I regret ever trying. So many other girls to bang out there (while BobClark does yours).
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post #23 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:40pm
I find it impossible to feel bad for someone who tries a long distance relationship. She missed you so much she couldn't take it? There must have been a penis present in the room when she said that.
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post #24 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:50pm
Domingo, dude, just ask yourself W.W.J.B.D.?* And then you'll be at peace.










*What would Jim Beaver Do?
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post #25 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:53pm
You're 22. Just let it go. Trust me: five years from now, you'll probably be happy that it happened.
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post #26 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:55pm
I had the same thread posted when I was 22 here. Listen to Zooey. It sucked at the time, but in retrospect it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Just go have fun. Also, like BobClark did with his thread(that was closed), Devin did it to me. God bless CHUD.
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post #27 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:56pm
Seriously, fuck relationships, the best thing you can be is single. I only learned this after I got dumped for the first time (and I'm happy it happened to me when I was 20). If you happen to fuck a girl you like, then call her again...if not, well, it was a good night anyway.
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post #28 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:58pm
Find her and strangle her to death.
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post #29 of 53
10/21/08 at 12:59pm
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Find her and strangle her to death.
You forgot the rape part.

"Just...one more...time"
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post #30 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:00pm
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Originally Posted by Domingo View Post
We were trying a long distance relationship for the better part of a year. She said she missed so much she couldn't take it. I didn't think she would do it.

I've never been dumped before. I've never felt like such a hollow failure of an unlikeable person in my life...
Go to work, rub down that sweet sweet black ride that you and I both adore and think to yourself, Life is good! Breaking up sucks, but think of all the stranger sex you can have now.
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post #31 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:01pm
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Originally Posted by B_MetalSucks View Post
Go to work, rub down that sweet sweet black ride that you and I both adore and think to yourself, Life is good! Breaking up sucks, but think of all the stranger sex you can have now.
He could just play CoD4 all day to cheer himself up.
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post #32 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:02pm
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Originally Posted by InTheShadows View Post
Seriously, fuck relationships, the best thing you can be is single.
Not quite what I meant. I'm married and I've never, ever been happier. My point was that the relationship I was in at 22 and the relationships I have seen that involve 22-year-olds tend to leave a lot to be desired. No need to go rushing off to the altar when you're little more than an adolescent with drinking privileges.
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post #33 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:03pm
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Originally Posted by MissZooey View Post
Not quite what I meant. I'm married and I've never, ever been happier. My point was that the relationship I was in at 22 and the relationships I have seen that involve 22-year-olds tend to leave a lot to be desired. No need to go rushing off to the altar when you're little more than an adolescent with drinking privileges.
If you're going to listen to anyone here Domingo, listen to Zooey. Couldn't agree more.
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post #34 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:04pm
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He could just play CoD4 all day to cheer himself up.
An all day session of RAMPAGE my just be what the Doctor ordered. Either that or lots and lots of porn.
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post #35 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:05pm
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Originally Posted by MissZooey View Post
Not quite what I meant. I'm married and I've never, ever been happier. My point was that the relationship I was in at 22 and the relationships I have seen that involve 22-year-olds tend to leave a lot to be desired. No need to go rushing off to the altar when you're little more than an adolescent with drinking privileges.
Fuck relationships for now. I'm 22, and I don't really see a point in being tied down to one person. It's annoying, I can do what I want this way.
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post #36 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:06pm
Relationships should be a break from being single. Not the other way around.
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post #37 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:13pm
You can aso use your new-found free time to do some improvements to yourself. If you're not signed up at your local gym, do so! Get yo' ass into shape! You can also take some night classes, work on getting your career going (true story - I had a girl dump me, so for the next year I threw myself into doing freelance work. Made a nice sum of money, learned some new skills, and beefed up my portfolio quite a bit). Basically, use your downtime between relationships to build yourself into Domingo 2.0. That way, if you ever encounter your ex again, she'll instantly regret letting you go.
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post #38 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:17pm
I've been there...

Let her go and make a clean break of it. Don't call her, don't email her, don't text her, don't even jerk off to old pictures of her; Quit her cold turkey. Absolutely erase her from your fucking mind and move the fuck ON with your life.
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post #39 of 53
10/21/08 at 1:40pm
You've done the most important first step: posting about it to strangers on the internet who don't care.
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post #40 of 53
10/21/08 at 2:18pm
I care Domingo!

Seriously though, 5 years? Fuck that, you'll be happy this happened in 6 months or less. You're 22, go have some fucking fun before you get old like me.
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post #41 of 53
10/21/08 at 2:40pm
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Originally Posted by Timothy225 View Post
You can aso use your new-found free time to do some improvements to yourself. If you're not signed up at your local gym, do so! Get yo' ass into shape! You can also take some night classes, work on getting your career going (true story - I had a girl dump me, so for the next year I threw myself into doing freelance work. Made a nice sum of money, learned some new skills, and beefed up my portfolio quite a bit). Basically, use your downtime between relationships to build yourself into Domingo 2.0.
Exactly this and Zooey's advice. Save for:

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Originally Posted by Timothy225 View Post
That way, if you ever encounter your ex again, she'll instantly regret letting you go.
Forget about this. It's not about "revenge", but getting over it. You may try to quit her cold turkey as JB implies (doesn't always work though) or think of her as a friend. And yeah, in a few years time, you'll look back, crack a smile and think about what it could've been... and thankfully wasn't.
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post #42 of 53
10/21/08 at 3:06pm
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Originally Posted by devincf View Post
You've done the most important first step: posting about it to strangers on the internet who don't care.
sounds that some of us care, sure we don't know the guy..but most of us have been down this road before and will use our experience to help a guy out.

Drink it up with your guy friends, do some flirting around (have fun, do not get into another relationship)

improve yourself. do not blame yourself for the break up.

rinse and repeat
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post #43 of 53
10/21/08 at 3:34pm
Cut off your pinky and mail it to her. Demand she takes you back or you'll eliminate the distance by sending yourself to her, bit by bit.

Edit: Don't cut off the pinky of your masturbation hand, because you may abandon this plan before long; 22-year-olds are flighty.
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post #44 of 53
10/21/08 at 10:29pm
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Originally Posted by Domingo View Post
Not dumping this on my real life friends just yet because I'm a bit ashamed.
Off topic you shouldn't be ashame.

On topic. Keep yourself busy-
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post #45 of 53
10/21/08 at 10:32pm
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Originally Posted by Judas Booth View Post
don't even jerk off to old pictures of her
People do this?
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post #46 of 53
10/21/08 at 10:35pm
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Originally Posted by Eric Cordo View Post
Relationships should be a break from being single. Not the other way around.
You know you are as healthy as a mental patient or pure genius. Today I talked with a soon to be divorced colleague: I'm one year older and an inspiration for you, you will want to be like me in a year...I mean single. Two hours later I was seriously flirting with some colleague.
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post #47 of 53
10/21/08 at 10:38pm
Girls generally don't dump you until they've got someone else lined up. That should make you feel better. She probably tripped and fell on somebody's cock at a party and...well, you know...

You're 22 and upwardly mobile, start hunting for bush immediately.
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post #48 of 53
10/21/08 at 10:51pm
fuck bush
weed is your answer


actually i'm telling you to actually fuck it, not fuck off
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post #49 of 53
10/21/08 at 11:00pm
I'd suggest watching THE BREAK UP because it's a funny movie that will lift your spirits.
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post #50 of 53
10/21/08 at 11:03pm
22 must be the magical age at which nearly everyone goes through a big breakup. Weird. Most everyone has given some good advice in here, especially Zooey. It sounds like it's time for you to try to enjoy being single and focus on yourself. (Just don't do like me and wake up 4 years later to realize you haven't had a real relationship since. You can get too used to being single.) Throw yourself into stuff you enjoy, and if that happens to include working out that's even better. Eventually you'll meet someone better for you than she ever was.

And until then, Cheggit is now accepting new registrations.
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