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post #1 of 73
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...I have to be honest I was pretty irked by a woman who was happy to have eight kids at once to begin with whther she was married or not (there's too fucking many of us anyway), then I found out she had SIX kids already, and now this:

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The Southern California woman who gave birth to octuplets this week conceived all 14 of her children through in vitro fertilisation, is not married and has been obsessed with having children since she was a teenager, her mother said.

Angela Suleman said she was not supportive when her daughter, Nadya Suleman, decided to have more embryos implanted last year.
At what point does this become pathalogical? At what point do we call this shit obscene?

At what point does the world turn around and say 'stop' when it comes to this army of little miracles? What if she wants yet more?

Why should fertility doctors be allowed to do this?
post #2 of 73
Yeah, it's stupid/misguided/harmful, but I don't understand your desire to interfere. People should be free to do all kinds of retarded things.
post #3 of 73
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This planet has too many people already, at a certain point when does the needs of the community/species outweigh the wants of the individual?

...and who exactly is going to be paying for these 14 children, to raise them and educate them? Certainly not her on her own unless she's heir to a fortune - the taxpayer then? Is that okay with you?
post #4 of 73
In this case she sounds crazy, and if she was trying for her 14th in vitro child, I can see some situation where the doctors should be able to refuse to help her get pregnant; for the good of the rest of her children or whatever. But if it had simply been a matter of a woman with six kids wanting to have a seventh, only to discover it was octuplets, I think it would be jumping the gun to call that pathological.

I also think it's just as wrongheaded to suggest we should put a law on a woman's body limiting the number of children she can have as it is to make one denying her right not to have one when she gets pregnant.

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I have to be honest I was pretty irked by a woman who was happy to have eight kids at once to begin with whther she was married or not
So you didn't know she wasn't married, didn't know she already had six kids, and didn't know they were all in vitro- and you still were irked by the woman? For what? The audacity of her ovaries?
post #5 of 73
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Doctors offered to limit the amount of children, something they are able to do upfront, she refused, doctors offered to abort some of the children for fear of health dangers to her and and the children themselves, she refused again.

I'm sorry, but there are already too many of us.

I ask again, at what point do the needs of the society and us as a species outwiegh the whims of the individual?
post #6 of 73
I agree that there ought to be thought given to what kind of life these children are going to have. An adoption agency will interview and screen potential parents before granting them a child. But somehow, no such restrictions apply for fertility doctors.

For some reason, people think that anything that involves actual pregnancy is natural childbirth, no matter how much medical interference and chemical enhancement is involved. A medical procedure that induces pregnancy should be treated just like any adoption.

Of course, that will never happen, because American culture is fucking insane when it comes to reproduction.
post #7 of 73
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Originally Posted by Greg David View Post
For some reason, people think that anything that involves actual pregnancy is natural childbirth, no matter how much medical interference and chemical enhancement is involved. A medical procedure that induces pregnancy should be treated just like any adoption.
Is that really where the problem with overpopulation stems from, though? How many people having too many children are doing it through in vitro?

Granted, I know very little about this stuff; but it seems to me the main result of that would be to make people with fertility problems jump through even more hoops to have a kid.
post #8 of 73
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Granted, I know very little about this stuff; but it seems to me the main result of that would be to make people with fertility problems jump through even more hoops to have a kid.
Exactly. And believe me it's not a buncha fun to go through the hoops that exist already. Being diagnosed as an infertile couple is a very stressful and painful process. We should be doing everything we can to make access to treatment and psychological counseling easier not harder. And it really shouldn't be made harder because some dipshit woman with OCD. She's not the norm nor should she even be talked about in reference to fertility treatments.
post #9 of 73
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Thats why I wasn't trying to make this a discussion about fertility treatments, I have nothing against them and they have helped friends of mine. Im talking more about this dipshit pathological nutbag of a woman and the wider question of wondering at what point societies needs outweigh the needs of an individual.

...at what point should the line be drawn using this as a case in point? Should a line be drawn at all?
post #10 of 73
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Thats why I wasn't trying to make this a discussion about fertility treatments, I have nothing against them and they have helped friends of mine. Im talking more about this dipshit pathological nutbag of a woman and the wider question of wondering at what point societies needs outweigh the needs of an individual.

...at what point should the line be drawn using this as a case in point? Should a line be drawn at all?
The problem is that by stopping THIS woman through a large scale initiative or law change you do make it harder for the rest of us. The psychological testing should have weeded her out but it didn't either because the testing is too lax or she's smart enough to manipulate the system. Having been through the psychological process (at least here in Canada) I'm going to go with manipulation of the system. You can't start making things even more difficult for people who really need this sort of thing because someone has worked the system. Someone will always find a way to work the system and the guidelines will continue to tighten until no one can use fertility treatments unless they are picture perfect in the eyes of some faceless bureaucrat who only judges them based on random criteria set up to prevent people crashing the system. ie kind of like Employment Insurance or Welfare

It's horrible, I agree, that this woman will become the face of fertility treatments but she's an extreme and should be treated as such. She needs to be held responsible as an individual not as a user of the fertility treatment.
post #11 of 73
I don't want to cast aspersions on anybody's life decisions, but I've never really understood the desperation on so many couple's parts to undergo fertility treatment.

I'm not asking this question to be confrontational, I just really want to know. And Ryan, since you seem to have gone through it, maybe you can give me a better answer than most:

Why, when there are so many children out there waiting for adoption, is it so imperative that you make new ones? Is it just instinct that drives people to make certain that their children are products of their own loins? Do people facing infertility ever even consider adoption, or is it out of the question?

I ask because my wife and I long ago decided not to have children. She got her tubes tied, partly because there's a history of mental illness in her family, and also because we felt that if were to have children, adoption would be a perfectly reasonable route. In the end, we decided to sidestep children altogether, but even when we were considering it, we never felt it was particularly important that they be biologically ours.
post #12 of 73
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Originally Posted by Ryan S~ View Post
It's horrible, I agree, that this woman will become the face of fertility treatments but she's an extreme and should be treated as such. She needs to be held responsible as an individual not as a user of the fertility treatment.
But held responsible how? That's the thorny part. Unless she's actually endangering or neglecting these kids (and how could she not be neglecting them? She's one person with 14 kids.), there's not a lot of legal precedent to rely on.

And of course it's not a matter of fertility treatment at all. I knew a girl in high school who now has 11 children (by now it could be 42; I haven't heard anything about her in a while), and they were all made the old-fashioned way. Obsessive baby manufacturing is what it is, regardless of the methodology.
post #13 of 73
She's being held responsible in the sense that she is now a single person with 14 kids. That's probably punishment enough; no need for the government to get involved.
post #14 of 73
The problem, of course, is that she's too stupid to realize how fucked she is.
post #15 of 73
"The needs of the many, outweigh the needs of the few...
...or the one."
post #16 of 73
Y'all would hate The Miracle of Morgan's Creek.
post #17 of 73
If you thought this story was already crazy, buckle up because it just hung a hard left into a wall of stupid:

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/lif...cle5627531.ece

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THE single mother of octuplets born in California last week is seeking $2m (£1.37m) from media interviews and commercial sponsorship to help pay the cost of raising the children.

Nadya Suleman, 33, plans a career as a television childcare expert after it emerged last week that she already had six children before giving birth on Monday. She now has 14 below the age of eight.

Although still confined to an LA hospital bed, she intends to talk to two influential television hosts this week — media mogul Oprah Winfrey, and Diane Sawyer, who presents Good Morning America.

Her family has told agents she needs cash from deals such as nappy sponsorship — she will get through 250 a week in the next few months — and the agents will gauge public reaction to her story.

Her earning power, though, could be diminished by a growing ethical and medical controversy. Experts believe that the unnamed fertility specialists who gave her in vitro fertilisation (IVF) should not have implanted so many embryos, and in choosing to carry all eight to term, Suleman ignored guidelines, risking both their health and her own.

US public reaction has been mixed: many have asked how an unemployed single mother can raise 14 children, as her first six have already strained the family budget. Angela and Ed Suleman, Nadya’s parents,bought her a two-bedroom bungalow in the suburb of Whittier in March 2007, but soon after got into debt and had to leave their own home.

They filed for bankruptcy and moved in with their daughter and grandchildren. Last week her father said he would return to his native Iraq to work as a translator and driver.

Angela Suleman, who is caring for the first six children — one of whom is autistic — while her daughter is in hospital, said yesterday that she had consulted a psychologist over Nadya’s “obsession with children”.

Nadya Suleman, who describes herself as a “professional student” living off education grants and parental money, broke up with her boyfriend before the birth of her first child seven years ago.

The identity of the octuplets’ father remains unknown, but local reports suggest they were conceived with frozen sperm donated by a friend she met while working at a fertility clinic. He is the father of her twins, born two years ago.

Michael Tucker of the Georgia Reproductive Clinic, Atlanta, said Suleman’s story stunned him. “We are policed by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, which frowns upon implanting more than two or three embryos at a time. It is remarkable that any practitioner would undertake such a practice.”

The babies, born nine weeks prematurely by C-section, were attended to by 46 medical staff, who expected seven babies. When the eighth — a boy — appeared, doctors were “confounded”.

Angela Suleman said her daughter was advised to terminate some of the embryos in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy for the sake of her health, but she refused because she did not know how to make such a life-or-death decision.

“She doesn’t have any more, so it’s over now. It has to be,” said the grandmother.
post #18 of 73
hey, California is bankrupt enough, might as well give her more of that government money! maybe she'll get a bail out.
post #19 of 73
So now she thinks that having a uterus like a clown car makes her a parenting expert, and that people will pay to hear what she thinks.

Of course. Why not?
post #20 of 73
Thread Starter 
Jesus wept.

...and Greg you're right, I was more discussing the obscenity of people who think its their right to turn their uterus' into a fucking major thorofare for the creation of babies when there are so many people in the world already - and as you pointed out many unwanted children. The way they were concieved is irrelevant to the pathology on display imo.

Tho, it's pretty amazing a fertility doctor would even encourage this, let alone fascilitate it.
post #21 of 73
As we've seen with prescription drug abuse and rampant plastic surgery, you can find a doctor who will do just about anything. The lack of professional ethics in the medical community is shocking.
post #22 of 73
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Originally Posted by Greg David View Post
I don't want to cast aspersions on anybody's life decisions, but I've never really understood the desperation on so many couple's parts to undergo fertility treatment.

I'm not asking this question to be confrontational, I just really want to know. And Ryan, since you seem to have gone through it, maybe you can give me a better answer than most:

Why, when there are so many children out there waiting for adoption, is it so imperative that you make new ones? Is it just instinct that drives people to make certain that their children are products of their own loins? Do people facing infertility ever even consider adoption, or is it out of the question?
All good questions, Greg, and they are all asked during the psychological testing done here in Canada. (For the record, our issue was azospermia caused by a genetic micro-deletion, essentially I am genetically incapable of producing sperm)

We did consider adoption but ruled it out for a number of reasons. First was that most babies available for adoption in Alberta through the government are Aboriginal. Neither my wife or I feel comfortable raising a child of a different race. There's a psychological culture gap that happens in children raised by parents of a different race. It's also why we didn't consider international adoption.

Secondly, we would have no control over pre-pregnancy or pre-natal care. There's a handful of really horrible things that can occur if the mother doesn't care for herself or the baby. I'm not just talking FAS or FAE, look up Neural Tube Defects. It's a potential risk when mothers aren't on folic acid. Gruesome, horrifying stuff.

Third was cost. Since we ruled out governmental adoption we would have had to go with an private adoption which in Alberta can run anywhere between 10 and 100 thousand. Compare that 750 dollars for a vial of sperm and a 1 in 6 shot of succesful implantation and you see why we chose donor.

Fourth was genetics. I married my wife with every intention of raising her children. I thought her genetics would make for some potentially cool kids. She thought mine would as well. Turns out we only get to find out half of that equation but still why not at least try.
post #23 of 73
She sent her parents into debt, too? Jesus. I don't envy the oldest of the previous six kids, in a few years he/she is either off to work to help pay for his/her mother's selfish ways, or is going to be caught up raising the new batch alongside mom.

I mean, it's not like we're living in a time, at least in this country, where we need 14 kids just to make sure we have some that survive long enough to til the fields.

Say what you will about the Duggars, but at least they have, like, jobs and didn't splurge for the whole meal in one sitting.
post #24 of 73
Is it going too far to state that some people need to be kicked off the planet?

There's too many people as it is--we're fucking ourselves to extinction. The thing is that sex is fun, hence the abundance of people.

This nutcase is another story entirely, though. She's a leech, the parasite of society bent on ushering destruction as fast as her uterus will allow. She willingly has herself fertilized in the hopes of having a shitload of kids, all while single even, and now she expects everyone else to pay their living expenses.

They should take her children away as it is VERY obvious she has mental problems and is unfit to raise ANY number of children.
post #25 of 73
Her vagina should be filled with concrete and these kids should be taken away from her.
post #26 of 73
Wow, just wow. As someone who helps take care of up to four kids under 2 in a day. This woman is clearly nuts.
post #27 of 73
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Originally Posted by Ryan S~ View Post
All good questions, Greg, and they are all asked during the psychological testing done here in Canada. (For the record, our issue was azospermia caused by a genetic micro-deletion, essentially I am genetically incapable of producing sperm)

We did consider adoption but ruled it out for a number of reasons. First was that most babies available for adoption in Alberta through the government are Aboriginal. Neither my wife or I feel comfortable raising a child of a different race. There's a psychological culture gap that happens in children raised by parents of a different race. It's also why we didn't consider international adoption.

Secondly, we would have no control over pre-pregnancy or pre-natal care. There's a handful of really horrible things that can occur if the mother doesn't care for herself or the baby. I'm not just talking FAS or FAE, look up Neural Tube Defects. It's a potential risk when mothers aren't on folic acid. Gruesome, horrifying stuff.

Third was cost. Since we ruled out governmental adoption we would have had to go with an private adoption which in Alberta can run anywhere between 10 and 100 thousand. Compare that 750 dollars for a vial of sperm and a 1 in 6 shot of succesful implantation and you see why we chose donor.

Fourth was genetics. I married my wife with every intention of raising her children. I thought her genetics would make for some potentially cool kids. She thought mine would as well. Turns out we only get to find out half of that equation but still why not at least try.

I'm sorry to hear about that Ryan, it seems that the couples that deserve children can't have them, and the people that don't even deserve to own a gold fish have 8 or 9. Fucked up and sad.
post #28 of 73
Irresponsible, disgusting, and flat-out DUMB. What kind of life are these children going to have? And I'm not just talking financially. The woman is clearly off her fucking rocker if she thinks that having a billion kids is going to fill whatever void is in her life. If she's this irresponsible with her own body, just imagine how she's going to be with 14 fucking kids under one roof.

Her parents should have taken her to the Maury show before this shit got out of hand.
post #29 of 73
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The woman is clearly off her fucking rocker if she thinks that having a billion kids is going to fill whatever void is in her life.
As I suggested earlier, fill her void with concrete and we're making some progress.
post #30 of 73
We will never see birth control of any form imposed on individual people, nor will any meaningful social or education programs be implemented to discourage irresponsible births, and no politician will ever intelligently and honestly raise the subject of unsustainable population/birth rates during our lifetimes. At least not in any westernized democracy, or any country of meaningful size.

You all can count on this. The subject is simply too "icky" for most people to consider. It infringes upon too many liberties folks hold dear. It will be our children/grandchildren/great-grandchildren who will deal with the fact that their predecessors found it too distasteful and taboo to rationally discuss how many humans the earth can sustain. This woman's personal lunacy and horrible, horrible life choices (that other citizens will have to bear financial responsibility for) are the merest tip of a six billion person iceberg.

I'm not even sure there is a way to approach the issue that isn't horrible distasteful. I know I find the idea of the state dictating personal life decisions on child-rearing to be repugnant. But why isn't any effort directed towards education? On responsible birth control? On the sheer economic reality of raising children?

Please tell me they're not going to leave 14 children in the custody of this loon.
post #31 of 73
Good post Overlord.

At the very least, the doctors directly involved shouldn't be working. Ever again.
Isn't it a form of malpractice? Sorry if it's been brought up, I didn't read the whole thread.
post #32 of 73
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As I suggested earlier, fill her void with concrete and we're making some progress.
That's awesome.
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post #34 of 73
Can't she be sectioned, as she's clearly a loon?
(...and by sectioned I don't mean being slammed in a psych-ward, but more like what happened to that horse in 'The Cell'.)
post #35 of 73
She immediately asked for millions of dollars to do "appearances" and for freebies from major corporations. I think it'd be safe to say that she had financial gain on her mind the entire time. She watched other multiple births be showered with gifts and felt that if she had a dozen kids, they'd give her free stuff too.

She also immediately hired a publicist. This is not the behavior of a mom. It's the behavior of someone who wants to exploit the situation to get famous and rich.
post #36 of 73
My cat had 'almost' that many kittens...am I doing this wrong?
I held hope that Oprah would turn-up (hence the axe by the frontdoor).
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My cat had 'almost' that many kittens...am I doing this wrong?
I held hope that Oprah would turn-up (hence the axe by the frontdoor).
post #38 of 73
Yikes!!! Please explain???
post #39 of 73
It's an art piece done to explore the idea of human/canine genetic cross-breeding. I can't remember the artist.
post #40 of 73
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It's an art piece done to explore the idea of human/canine genetic cross-breeding. I can't remember the artist.
Her name is Patricia Piccinini. I was lucky enough to see that very sculpture in person in Munich over a decade ago and if you think the picture looks creepy, you should see it up close.

She's an amazing artist tho.
post #41 of 73
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I'm sorry to hear about that Ryan, it seems that the couples that deserve children can't have them, and the people that don't even deserve to own a gold fish have 8 or 9. Fucked up and sad.
Thanks. We had a bit of a time with it but we had a daughter nine months ago thanks to fertility options and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

And I couldn't agree more with the last part of your post.
post #42 of 73
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Her name is Patricia Piccinini. I was lucky enough to see that very sculpture in person in Munich over a decade ago and if you think the picture looks creepy, you should see it up close.

She's an amazing artist tho.
I've never seen that piece before, but I love it. I can't stop looking at it, actually. If I were an art collector with way too much money on my hands...
post #43 of 73
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Thanks. We had a bit of a time with it but we had a daughter nine months ago thanks to fertility options and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

And I couldn't agree more with the last part of your post.
oh...well a late congrats! she's one lucky girl to have parents such as yourselves!
post #44 of 73
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I've never seen that piece before, but I love it. I can't stop looking at it, actually. If I were an art collector with way too much money on my hands...
I like to think there's an entire "Dr. Moreau Manimal whelp" series available at those mall Tchotchke-collection-behind-glass stores.



EDIT: http://www.patriciapiccinini.net/ "Gathering" is a pretty freaky little short.

Her thoughts on her work.
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post #46 of 73
Hey everybody, now you can help her support these kids! She's set up a website accepting donations.

How much do I have to donate so I can kick her in the crotch?
post #47 of 73
Online donations? What happened to the days when a single mother who needed money would just prostitute herself? This country's going to hell.
post #48 of 73
I have no problem calling this lady crazy. She's totally and utterly batshit insane and deserves any and all scorn thrown her way.

Now, I do have a problem with a wider issue raised in this thread about reproductive rights and personal responsibility. I say if a person wants a huge family and is capable of supporting them physically, financially and emotionally (something I think Crazy Von Preggo's isn't capable of) how can a society justify imposing "limits" on reproduction?

Now, I'm not a "everything is a slippery slope" kind of guy but in this case I am wary at what it could lead down the road. The last thing I want to do is put issues like these in the hands of politicians. Let's address unwanted pregnancies, access to comprehensive sex education, the availability of contraception and medical ethics before we start throwing around population sustainability as a reason to limit reproduction.
post #49 of 73
She was just on the news here as well. I had never seen first person up until now. What an unequivocally sad, delusional and borderline criminal person she is. "It doesn't matter that I have 14 fucking small kids. Because I will love them and I will devote myself to them and I will feed them with lembas bread I will pull out of my clown-car of a vagina. Please donate." She shouldn't be allowed to have even a single kid.
post #50 of 73
I've looked all over that site and I can't find a way to give her a clue.
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