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Originally Posted by Cuchulain 
Positive reinforcement is wonderful. However, it's not what led me to succeed and I doubt it is what leads many people to succeed.
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Seems fairly clear that you were motivated largely by the idea that you were/are morally superior to your 'stupid fuck' classmates. Which is fine. We're talking about people who largely aren't going to be making that sort of distinction because they are, at a fundamental level,
different from most everybody else. They weren't struck down by an unfortunate event or an act of God - they were
born that way. If a kid is born without legs, it's fairly obvious society is going have trouble integrating him. It's not going to benefit him to make this a defining characteristic of their condition, though. It will be made pretty clear very quickly. If a kid loses his legs in an accident, and decides to persevere, then good for him, cheers all around. And if a kid is paralyzed from the neck down and decides to take his own life (as happened recently in the UK), I'm not trying to pass a judgement there. This is all fairly reasonable stuff; where your argument becomes unreasonable, I think, is where you say that children need to be explicitly taught, through a specific approach to this condition, that society will not accept them and that they will not be able to functionally integrate without specific accommodation. Whether it's true or not varies greatly on a case by case basis, and in any case isn't going to serve someone facing this sort of struggle on a day-to-day basis anyway.
If someone had come to you and said 'because you have this disease, society will not accept you and your ability to function in society will be greatly diminished,' well, I struggle to see what good that would have done. Everyone struggles to function in society, to varying degrees, and it seems more effective to focus on ways in which someone can function (i.e. 'I am different) than on the ways in which society will prevent you from functioning (i.e. 'I am disabled/disadvantaged'). Which may be psycho-analytical gobbledegook between two people with no immediate understanding of what it's like to be in this particular state, but the young 'militant' lady, who does have an immediate knowledge of this, argues otherwise. You say self-esteem is vastly overrated, shortly after regaling us with a list of your esteemed successes in contrast with your bad schoolmates. There is a bit of a contradiction there, just as there is a bit of contradiction in your overall argument.