I dunno about that, some gay people are just gayer than other gay people. If I'm wrong about this, sure, call me out on it by all means, but I've definitely known some gay people who were not confused at all with being gay or not, but didn't seem very gay just because they didn't 'act gay' so much. I don't think it's my place as a straight male to decide when they should think it's appropriate to be sexual with each other, it doesn't concern me. Did Madonna run into much difficulty when she did her lesbian kiss? No. But yeah, both these artists make shitty music anyway.