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post #1 of 27
2/7/10 at 7:27pm
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Any experience with this?

I had a girl once tell me she thought watching porn was cheating...that it was literally like having another girlfriend. I then asked her if her lust for soap stars was the same thing. We didn't last long.
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post #2 of 27
2/7/10 at 7:41pm
That sounds like a symptom of a weird level of sexual insecurity on her part. Most of the girls I've dated have viewed porn as a non-issue or have been the more avid porn viewers in the relationship. Then again, pretty much 100% of them have been batshit insane, so I'm not sure how helpful that info is if you date the saner variety.
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post #3 of 27
2/7/10 at 7:50pm
I don't mind my boyfriend watching porn, it's never been a problem. I actually think it's fun to watch together. I don't know anyone who would consider it cheating. Unless it was a really unhealthy obsession.
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post #4 of 27
2/7/10 at 7:55pm
What about hentai in relationships?
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post #5 of 27
2/7/10 at 8:07pm
Luca, I will allow you to watch shitting dicknipple hentai as long as you still come home to me at the end of the day.
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post #6 of 27
2/7/10 at 8:08pm
I wanted it to be something we shared, Jakob. Why do you exclude me from everything?
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post #7 of 27
2/7/10 at 8:31pm
Yes, tentacle porn is exactly the thing we need to spice up sex in the bedroom/back of the car/alley/whatever.
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post #8 of 27
2/7/10 at 8:56pm
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Originally Posted by Rene (Mr.Eko) View Post
Yes, tentacle porn is exactly the thing we need to spice up sex in the bedroom/back of the car/alley/whatever.
Oddly, the girl I'm currently sleeping with is into tentacle porn. It's part of the reason I've never invited her to stay the night, honestly.
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post #9 of 27
2/7/10 at 10:04pm
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Originally Posted by Cuchulain View Post
Oddly, the girl I'm currently sleeping with is into tentacle porn. It's part of the reason I've never invited her to stay the night, honestly.
Watch out for her ex-boyfriend too Cuch - he's the jealous type...

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post #10 of 27
2/7/10 at 10:13pm
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Originally Posted by Ambler View Post
Any experience with this?

I had a girl once tell me she thought watching porn was cheating...that it was literally like having another girlfriend. I then asked her if her lust for soap stars was the same thing. We didn't last long.
Well, they aren't the same thing, idiot. No wonder she broke up with you.
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post #11 of 27
2/7/10 at 10:14pm
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Watch out for her ex-boyfriend too Cuch - he's the jealous type...
She's black, so that reference works on a very odd level.
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post #12 of 27
2/7/10 at 10:40pm
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Well, they aren't the same thing, idiot. No wonder she broke up with you.
First off, I don't think calling me an idiot proves your argument. And they are the same thing if while she's touching herself late at night her favorite soap star is on her mind.

Second of all...well, take a wild guess, you seem like a smart one.
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post #13 of 27
2/7/10 at 11:27pm
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Well, they aren't the same thing, idiot. No wonder she broke up with you.
I'm getting epic douchey "it's a dog" vibes - Domingo is that you?
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post #14 of 27
2/8/10 at 12:21am
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First off, I don't think calling me an idiot proves your argument. And they are the same thing if while she's touching herself late at night her favorite soap star is on her mind.
IF, you said. You didn't say she did it.

1. A porn tape involves actual people actually fucking. Real people were involved in making the tape, and they weren't pretending to fuck, artistically.

2. A fantasy involves nothing but ones own imagination.

There is a difference. You pretended there was no difference, but there is a definite difference. A porn tape is different even than some arty simulated sex love scene in a regular movie. You thought you were being clever with your douchebag rejoinder to your ex, but you were just being a douchebag. You thought you were being clever, but you weren't.

EDIT: You know, I didn't come in intending to blast you, but it sounds like you started this thread just to settle some old argument with your ex. Sorry, she's right, you are wrong.
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post #15 of 27
2/8/10 at 12:23am
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Originally Posted by The Rain Dog View Post
I'm getting epic douchey "it's a dog" vibes - Domingo is that you?
Oh look, the little bootlicker is all butt-hurt because I called him a bootlicker.
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post #16 of 27
2/8/10 at 1:07am
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Oh look, the little bootlicker is all butt-hurt because I called him a bootlicker.
Revel in your bitter anger.
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post #17 of 27
2/8/10 at 2:30am
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IF, you said. You didn't say she did it.

1. A porn tape involves actual people actually fucking. Real people were involved in making the tape, and they weren't pretending to fuck, artistically.
Which has what to do exactly with me cheating? Her shitty logic dictated that I'd be cheating if I watched it. Using that same uber-balanced logic, she'd be cheating by fantasizing about her soap crushes, wish she had. I called it like I saw it; as the first sign of mental illness, so I dumped her soon after.


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EDIT: You know, I didn't come in intending to blast you, but it sounds like you started this thread just to settle some old argument with your ex. Sorry, she's right, you are wrong.
Seems like you're the only one who thinks so...I'll give you her phone number, as I have a feeling you two would probably hit it off.

And I'd give two shits if you were actually right about my intentions with the thread. Either way, I don't give a damn what your opinion is anymore. Welcome to my ignore list. Go die under a highway overpass.
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post #18 of 27
2/8/10 at 2:37am
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Originally Posted by Ambler View Post
Any experience with this?

I had a girl once tell me she thought watching porn was cheating...that it was literally like having another girlfriend. I then asked her if her lust for soap stars was the same thing. We didn't last long.
My wife and I are traditional in that we believe that "fucking other people without the other person's approval" constisutes cheating.
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post #19 of 27
2/8/10 at 2:39am
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My wife and I are traditional in that we believe that "fucking other people without the other person's approval" constisutes cheating.
What about emotional infidelity?
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post #20 of 27
2/8/10 at 11:26am
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My wife and I are traditional in that we believe that "fucking other people without the other person's approval" constisutes cheating.
That actually sounds like it constitutes rape.
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post #21 of 27
2/10/10 at 3:59pm
I am a scene indexer for an adult dvd company and my wife is a novelty reviewer for the same company. As you can guess the work is pretty mutual, we both benefit from each others work. I would say that porn is a very healthy part of our relationship. It also doesnt hurt that porn helps pay the bills.
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post #22 of 27
2/10/10 at 4:08pm
My ex-gf and I used to watch it together, I see no harm in it. Hell, it added a bit to our sexual relationship.

Sure she was bat-shit crazy, but she was hot..
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post #23 of 27
2/10/10 at 4:09pm
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Originally Posted by Haddonfield13 View Post
I am a scene indexer for an adult dvd company and my wife is a novelty reviewer for the same company. As you can guess the work is pretty mutual, we both benefit from each others work. I would say that porn is a very healthy part of our relationship. It also doesnt hurt that porn helps pay the bills.
Assuming that you're involved, from time to time, with assisting her in the novelty review, I can see where that would be a relationship boon! You've made me mildly jealous of your career, Haddonfield. My job is stable but dull, and the most erotic accessory in my wife's career is a string of beads that helps categorize testicle size.

She's still coming around to porn. Does anyone know of a good adult remake of Pride & Prejudice? I think that would be more up her alley than my preferred Viv Thomas fare.
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post #24 of 27
2/11/10 at 10:15am
Watching porn with your partner is fine. It's generally a great way to start the conversation about what theyre into that they might never admit in any other context. The two big problems are:

1. Watching it before you've actually slept together. Finding out your partner harbors a secret hope that you have a 14 inch dick or breasts that could destroy Alderaan just invites a boatload of insecurities.

2. Watching porn as opposed to actually fucking.
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post #25 of 27
2/11/10 at 5:26pm
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Originally Posted by TzuDohNihm View Post
That actually sounds like it constitutes rape.
I do not know why but I find this funnier than shit.I must be tired
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post #26 of 27
2/11/10 at 6:18pm
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Originally Posted by Haddonfield13 View Post
I am a scene indexer for an adult dvd company and my wife is a novelty reviewer for the same company. As you can guess the work is pretty mutual, we both benefit from each others work. I would say that porn is a very healthy part of our relationship. It also doesnt hurt that porn helps pay the bills.
Interesting. I, too, love Michigan football.
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post #27 of 27
2/17/10 at 6:02pm
We both like porn, haven't watched it together yet though, mostly just because the right moment hasn't popped up.

As long as you have a healthy real sex life and aren't using it as a crutch or a vice its great, I once briefly dated a porn addict though so I've seen how that shit can go sour too. Some personality types seem able to turn anything into a destructive habit, whether its porn, video games, alcohol or online poker; it's best to steer clear of those people...
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