Wife found my porn rash. - Page 6

Our virgin. But yes.

Truth. That's what I get for assuming he's in a city, and considering I was in the same boat before I moved (GOTTA GET MARRIED BY 20! etc.), I shouldn't be so surprised.

God, yes. I initially came here to troll. Some would argue that I'm still doing it.

This thread is win. The way you guys have derailed it has made me laugh so much.

Admit nothing. New rules.

It doesn't kill your drive if you don't have to stress. It's stress that kills a woman's drive. And by stress it could be serious things (like worrying about finances) or more everyday concerns (needing to clean house, the child being audible on the monitor, etc). If you want her to have a good sex drive, you need to make sure she has plenty of sleep, a clean house, and the baby is either really well asleep or being taken care of (e.g. at your grandmother's house for a few hours). And, of course, that you're not in the dog house for doing something she doesn't like.


As for the porn location, that's not the concern. It's that she didn't know about it. Why didn't she? You should both know where the porn, sex toys, etc are -- if for no other reason than to keep the child out of it.

Here's a tip about humanity. If a person over-reacts to something, it usually means it either triggers a specific concern they have (e.g. your wife might already be concerned that she is not satisfying you sexually, and so when she found the porn she didn't think "here's some porn" she thought "he is having to use porn because i'm not good enough" and the "i'm not good enough" part is what makes her upset) or because they are having a sneaky hate spiral kind of a day. Regardless, communication is the key to finding out what the real problem is and solving it (or at least working toward solving it).

Incompatible sex drives are important. You need to help your wife understand your needs, and come to an agreement on how you both will handle the difference in drives. Maybe it's that she becomes ok with a certain amount of porn/self-service in your life. Maybe it's that you agree to help with things around the house so she can have a better libido and you get more sex. You need to talk it out and come to a place where you are both comfortable with the situation.

Some of the best advice posted in this thread.

Are you Amish?

2:45, please.

I'm barely religious. I've been married for 18 years (more than 17 happy ones), and I'm 37. It happens. It's more common in some places than others.

In most of those places though, we have sex a lot more than a couple times a month because there's no other entertainment available. I don't know what's up with Nick's wife there. Maybe he has a tiny little koala penis.

Sammy was all like "I love you, first girl who touched my weiner!"

Seriously, though, good on y'all who found someone that you can deal with for more than five minutes at a time early on in life.

not the first. Maybe the first who had a different last name though.

Yeah, I got married at 22. What then? I'm divorced at 26. Being trapped in a glass house, I threw stones!

It's dumb for girlfriends/wives to be upset over casual porn use and treat it as if it were some sick obsession. A friend of mine's wife threatened to divorce him over internet porn and scolded him like a petulent child.

I just tell my wife that it's simply the act and not the full-breasted women that I wank it to. She believes it.

"I don't even like rude titties, I just like SEX! Jesus, honey, don't feel inadequate in the face of MASSIVE CANS, especially when it comes to a set of jugs like Danielle Dietermayer's. They call her 'DD' for more than one reason you know"

Also I'm real glad to be single right now after re-reading this thread

Jesus, we make fun of people who get married before 30.

Some of us marry women that we can be honest and open with about our sexual peccadilloes.

Unpossible.

Strange, yes. Unpossible, no.

Same here, it's sort of seen as an old person thing. The couple people I know who are already married in their 20's get a few raised eyebrows.

I have a friend who is 18 and getting married. . . but yeah, it is weird.

A couple of my 19 year old friends got married a ways back and had a kid by 20, but they're actually kind of awesome and everyone knew they were going to get married. It doesn't make it any less weird, though.

I'm feeling 28. As a (very) single (lonely) man, I feel that it'll probably just happen then. Then I'll become a drug addict, suffer depression and kill myself by 40. I have high hopes, folks.

(Just in case, I'm not serious.)

*laughs, cries, accidentally knocks over bottle of bourbon that he opened at 8 AM*

For the record, the median age for first marriages in the U.S. is mid-late 20s. The second page of the linked document has it broken up by state, according to 2008 census data.

So it could be that some of you just hang out with emotionally stunted people.

I kid, I kid.

Emotionally stunted?! That's it, I'm telling my mom about you!

This made me nearly start a "Fly Your Freak Flag High" thread but then I slept off that drunk and thought better of it.

Dave, Dave, Dave... I was 25 when we got married. Clearly, this makes me some sort of raving freak. I'm not sure why 31-year-old, perfectly normal you saw fit to throw your life away by making your love for a weirdo like me publicly known.

If your sig. other is so worried about your porn consumption that it is doing perhaps permanent damage to your relationship, one or both of you are doing something very wrong. If porn is important enough to you that you're willing to lie or attempt to underplay your partner's anxieties about it, that's messed up. I've seen my fair share of porn - it's most definitely not worth that.

Dave was just taking the advice of Michael Bluth and locking that shit down. Plus, this way he can join our "Goofy Looking Dudes with Hot, Smart Wives" club. I can send him a brochure.