Serious Question. - Page 4

The scientific term is "heebie jeebies".

When you find out that Finkle is Einhorn, you probably can't control your immediate physical/psychological response, but you can control how you react to it and "deal" with it (for those who think it's an issue). I can't honestly say how I'd feel, especially now that I've been married 11+ years and haven't had casual sex in quite some time. I remember it being exhilerating and troublesome at times (casual sex). But I do recognize that sex changes are not quite as commonplace and easy to understand as say homosexuality (I'm attracted to the female figure/parts personally). It's a step further from center. "Uncanny" was used. Sometimes these things aren't easily processed and tolerance and personal comfort can be questioned. "Wait, you're saying they have the parts/figure I'm attracted to, but they weren't born that way? I'm fine looking at fake boobs, but how do I feel about a fake vagina?"

I'd rather talk about it frankly and without fear of condemnation for my frankness. I dunno.

I don't equate it with a racist person finding out that his/her partner is of mixed race though. That's ignorant. And certainly intolerant. And sad. Unknowingly participating in something you find odd can conjur up odd feelings.

Food for thought: what if your opposite-sex partner blind-folded you and brought in a same-sex person to perform acts on you? And you enjoyed it just fine. Would you be ok with that if you found out later? Does that make you a homosexual/bisexual if you enjoyed it? If you were mad/upset, would it be justified? Should it matter at all? Should sexuality matter at all?

People who are normally confident in their sexuality may now question it, if they were involded in a situation like this. I suppose since people identify themselves with their sexuality so much (gay pride, etc), having "their beliefs" shaken may be unsettling. And yeah, I recognize that a transgender "woman" (sorry for the quotes) identifies as a woman, but there's more complexity than that, in my mind.

I'm in the "I'd have to think about it" camp. Not the "whatever" or "yuck" extremes.

If I had sex with a woman and found out later that she was once a dude, I'd be kind of pissed. Does that mean she had an obligation to tell me? No.

But yeah... I'd be pissed. Also, if it was anything other than a one night stand I'd also feel pretty betrayed.

I'll admit that if my wife of 20 years suddenly pulled that cat out of the bag, I'd be a little disturbed.

If I ended up with a woman that had a dick, I'd certainly be surprised, but at the same time it'd kind of be my own fault for not figuring it out sooner. I wouldn't really feel like they'd be OBLIGATED to tell me or that they owed me anything, because nobody owes me shit.

Yeah, if I'm out looking for a one-night stand, it's not as if I were some innocent with pure motives, and a filthy liar snookered me into something dirty. Mea Culpa.

We will know all there is to know about the crying game.

That's why I subscribe to the Crocodile Dundee litmus test.