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post #2601 of 2646

So, I dropped into the Depression thread to see what was going on...

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Being a parent that is always our worst fear.

That's why we bought a tent



It's only happened once, and luckily he was 3.

 

Nick's Fuck Tent sounds like a short-lived punk band from the 70's. 

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So, I dropped into the Depression thread to see what was going on...

If ever there was a need for Homerbackingintothebushes.gif, amirite?
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If ever there was a need for Homerbackingintothebushes.gif, amirite?

 

 

This Homer gif?

 

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If ever there was a need for Homerbackingintothebushes.gif, amirite?

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Originally Posted by NickP View Post

Being a parent that is always our worst fear.

That's why we bought a tent



It's only happened once, and luckily he was 3.

Also, this... https://www.reddit.com/r/Jokes/comments/7wygzg/afternoon_sex/?utm_source=reddit-android
post #2607 of 2646
So there's supposed to be sperm in Obama's painting?
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So, I dropped into the Depression thread to see what was going on...

Apologies. My fault. I should have posted elsewhere.
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Oh man. I was just tryin to make you laugh. I started the nonsense. I hope you're alright, man. Or better..
post #2610 of 2646
It made me laugh.
And this is on a day I learned my grandma has small cell lung cancer and my wife will have to have a full hysterectomy
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Shit, man. I'm really sorry to hear that. 

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Is what it is I suppose.
If I didn't have bad luck, I'd have no luck at all.
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Apologies. My fault. I should have posted elsewhere.

 

Not your fault at all!

 

My anxiety is simmering pretty bad today.  No reason for it, as usual.

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Nick hang in there man.

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Been a real shitty last couple of weeks.

1. Grandma with cancer
2. Wife and her medical shit.
3. My fucking job. I wish they'd just come out and say "all these people we hired for half your salary that we are asking to help train by you giving them your accounts... they'll be replacing you in 6 months".
4. And I just found out I have CKD. Nothing too serious right now but ya.
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Very sorry to hear, Nick. There are no words appropriate for the heap of shit you are dealing with right now.
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You're doing pretty great work in the Trumpocalypse thread, Nick.  Thank you for that.

 

And you're completely right to feel down, that's an awful lot to deal with.

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What is CKD?

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Chronic kidney disease
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Fuck beans, Nick. I have nothing that can actually help you but my heart is with you.

Ugh. Thoughts and prayers. I feel dirty just saying it. But it’s true.
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Oh man. Damn dude. I wish I could do something more than just echo what the others have said..
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Appreciate it.
I just need to find my focus and probably lay a bit back on the drinking.
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PM me if you need. That last bit is something I say on the regular.
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Holy shit Nick. I'll drink more this weekend on your behalf (and so you don't have to).

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So tired of this shit.
"In the next 60 days can you start forwarding leads from these states to these people".
Fucking companies today. They just piss down your back. It's unreal.
"Oh this will open up time for you to land the big fish"

What big fish???
I get no leads from the company any more. Unless they directly want info on large items.
So many of my big projects were landed due to relationships I gained from starting with smaller projects.
And here's how it goes now
"Oh hey Nick. So and so wants info on this... but I already sold them stuff... So id like to take the lead. But if I need your help I'll let you know"

Oh, and my leads now are in the form of "this person looked at our website... cold call them and make it look like we aren't tracking info". So they aren't even leads.
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My dad died very early on Thursday morning and I'm having a bit of a struggle processing it.  On top of all of my conflicting emotions, I also feel very mortal right now.

 

I'm going to be joining Andy in taking a bit of a break from the site and re-evaluating quite a few things.  Nothing personal against anyone here, I just feel a need to re-direct my energies.  

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Judas, I am so very sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need. We'll be here for you. Let us know if there is anything we can do, friend.

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Very sorry, JB. Peace and support to you and yours. Do whatever self care you need. We'll be here.

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Take care Judas, a break is understandable, we're here if you need us!

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Condolences, Judas.

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Condolences Judas.

My old man jumped ship 2 weeks ago also and although I don’t really feel much about that, I’ll just say allow yourself to feel whatever comes naturally and don’t bottle stuff up. Take care of those around you but be sure to take care of yourself too.

All the best mate.
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Sorry to hear that Judas. Thoughts are with you.
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Take care of yourself, Judas. Tough times are never easy.
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We're here for you, Judas.
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Sorry for your loss, Judas.

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That's a hardcore bunch of bad business you're dealing with Nick, sorry to hear it mate.

Same to you WD. Kia kaha brother.

And condolences JB, hope you find the peace you need regarding your dad's passing.
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I've never posted in the Depression thread. Largely because I didn't really know how to say what I want to say. But this place seems pretty supportive and helpful so...

I'm 28 years old, and for the last couple of years I've wondered what exactly I've been doing with my life. Sure, I think everyone gets that way to some extent. I get that. But I feel like my life has been brought down by a constant cycle of bad habits, boredom, and overall anxiety and fear that has come to define my life. I'm terrified of everything, so I run away from anything that might causes me stress. It's just far easier for me to sit down and stare at a computer screen for hours at a time. Even the things that I do like (like reading, and writing, and playing video games) become such a chore to do. Where once I could read for hours at a time, now it' s a fucking struggle just to get through 10 pages. The funny thing is, at work (if you don't know I am in the military) it's probably most I'll be social, mostly because it's the only way to get through the day. Even then, it's a rollercoaster of emotions where I go from being okay, to being pissed, to being mopey, and to being apathetic about everything. I don't like what I do, and personally see no purpose in it. That's not a dig at the military at large, but I just don't feel like I'm doing anything relatively important, even though I'm being told constantly that I am.

The thing is? Logically, I know I don't have a bad life. I have parents who love me; I have friends who support me. I get paid and I'm able to maintain a decent lifestyle. But honestly, I can barely find the motivation to do what I need to do in order to have a successful life and I don't know if I'm just being lazy or if there really is something wrong with me.

So yeah.
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Do you talk to the work shrink, Ska? I think just about everyone in this thread could read your post and take a memory from it. It sounds like you are riding that classic anxiety/depression borderline. You can’t fight it with logic because it’s not logical at all. It’s not laziness to feel crushed by the world.

Thanks for speaking up here. People will be here for you.

But also consider talking to a professional IRL.
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How often do you hit the gym?
I ask, becsuse when I get into those slumps that's one of the few things that can bring me up.
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Originally Posted by Lightning Slim View Post

Do you talk to the work shrink, Ska? I think just about everyone in this thread could read your post and take a memory from it. It sounds like you are riding that classic anxiety/depression borderline. You can’t fight it with logic because it’s not logical at all. It’s not laziness to feel crushed by the world.

Thanks for speaking up here. People will be here for you.

But also consider talking to a professional IRL.

 

1) YES you have access to free professional help. Take it! 

 

2) My completely useless take: your current routine isn't working and your interests...no longer interest you. 

 

Try something new and random. It could be something as mundane as playing poker with your colleagues, or taking a class in coding or caligraphy, etc. 

 

For me, about 5 years ago I got a Live Social "try Yoga for a week for $20", did so, and now practice 2-3 times per week. It's made a huge difference in my physical and mental health. 

 

You could make some goal like "I'm going to try some random thing I have never done before once per week, month, whatever". I you set a concrete goal it makes it more likely you will do it. 

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How often do you hit the gym?
I ask, becsuse when I get into those slumps that's one of the few things that can bring me up.

This. Getting to the gym is vital. It works out bad feelings, releases endorphins, and improves your health. It also helps you sleep better, something that i always took for granted.
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The gym is my drug. That feeling driving back home from the gym is euphoric
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Another thing: totally disconnect from all electronics about an hour before you go to bed.  Get rid of all visual stimulus.  Read if you want but don't watch any TV, play on your computer, or diddle with your cellphone.  Just disconnect entirely.  Doing so will turn your brain 'off' before going to sleep...you'll fall asleep faster and have better quality sleep.  Visual stimulus before going to bed tends to mess with your sleep cycle which will, in turn, feed your depression.

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Originally Posted by NickP View Post

The gym is my drug. That feeling driving back home from the gym is euphoric

 

Same here, I have low to mid anxiety problems, and cardio is the one thing guaranteed to mute it.

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I always say that my elliptical workout is just as important as my meds.  I have major depression and anxiety issues, and the machine would always help, at least for a little while.  Of course, my new machine has been a source of endless stress; something's always wrong with it and they keep sending scuzzy, incompetent techs who don't do anything.  My knees are too bad for running. 

 

So lately I've really been struggling with my mental health.   I've dealt with the anniversary of my Mother's death, some other health issues, lots of bills, and a mountain of trivial bullshit.  I'm sure there's stuff I'm forgetting.  I've felt myself teetering a few times, but I've survived.  You know what has helped more than anything?  My pets.  They're family, always there.  Amazing.  I found this other family of four brother cats on the street one rainy night, about ten years ago.  Last January, Roosevelt was lost to cancer.  It was absolutely brutal.  I still tear up when I see pictures of him.

 

Yesterday, I found out that his brother, Riley, has cancer.  Prognosis doesn't sound good.  I don't know how I'm going to go through this again.  I have the best vet on Earth, but other than that, not much in the way of a support network.

 

For now, Riley still seems like his usual self.  He's curled up on my bed, not knowing anything's wrong.  

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Sorry to hear about your cats, losing a pet is rough. Funnily the thing that consoled me the most when my dog Bailey died in 2015 was my own personal realization that he would have passed away at a much younger age if I had never adopted him. I feel the same can be said for your cats.

Try not to feel like you’re to blame. You haven’t done anything wrong or neglected caring for them, in fact because of your kindness they have already lived well past what their lifespan would have been in the wild.
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