Dating Tips/Advice - Page 7

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Originally Posted by The Rain Dog 

Hmmmm. This intrigues me. Do I go all ring-a-ding-ding, or would that be false advertising?

Well, it's no different than when women post pics of themselves in a fancy dress or in a sexy Comic-Con outfit. You're just showing that you can pull off "Don Draper", that's all. It's part of your repertoire. And I'm sure a casual OO7/Sinatra photo will rank you above the wide myriad of creepy "monitor camera" photos of guys that women are forced to sort through.

In the end, I think it's only false advertising if you had to rent a shirt & tie for the photo.

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Originally Posted by Art Decade 

Here ye, here ye! I've got a hot tip for all the fellas on OkC:

 

Last night, I took a quick pic of myself in a shirt & tie (loosened) & used that as the profile pic. Result? Two cool & hot women IM'd me out if the blue & my visitor traffic saw a big uptick.

Spread the word, gentlemen, and get your Don Draper on!

As I mentioned before, the right picture goes a long way.

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Originally Posted by Art Decade 

Here ye, here ye! I've got a hot tip for all the fellas on OkC:

 

Last night, I took a quick pic of myself in a shirt & tie (loosened) & used that as the profile pic. Result? Two cool & hot women IM'd me out if the blue & my visitor traffic saw a big uptick.

Spread the word, gentlemen, and get your Don Draper on!

Awesome.

Also no matter how cheesy you think it might be, if you've got a good body: black tank top.

I strongly recommend using a modified search engine optimization on OKC. Instead of going on question answering binges, answer one or two every day. Change your profile picture, or add a picture, every day. This will keep you in the timeline portion where a greater number of people will see you. Any time you make a change to your profile, it bumps you to the top.

From the Valentine's Day edition of USA Today.  Front page, natch.

Got a spare hundred grand lying around?  20-1 odds are in your favor on this dating site.

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Originally Posted by bendrix 

Well, the lady I met on OKC the day Chris started this thread decided I'm a keeper and has upgraded me to boyfriend as of Valentine's Day. She's absolutely fantastic, and I'm very excited to where this will lead. Just a success story/testimonial to give some encouragement to you fine fellows and ladies: it's very possible, and if it can happen to me, it can certainly happen to you. Best of luck to you all!

Best of luck to you, bendrix!

so lonely

We can hold hands if you want.

thanks, I...*sniffles, wipes eyes, gingerly reaches over*

For real though I screwed up a thing with a cool girl who now can't stand the very thought of me now because I was having lots of life problems and being crazy because of it, and then I thought I'd be an idiot and rekindle things with my ex (I will seriously never fucking learn), and that's making me miserable, so I'm probably just going to stay single for a very, very long time.

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At least my hand won't text me "I'll bet you still jerk off while thinking about me. You are a terrible person." at 3 AM unless it goes rogue a la Evil Dead 2

Holy shit, she did that? What a fucking bitch.

Yeah, please tell me this didn't actually happen.

To be entirely fair, I was pretty terrible at that time. A mixture of my life completely going tits-up, me rabidly self-medicating with booze to ignore reality, and me not being in any place to be in a relationship with anyone at the time. I honestly wish her the best and I know that there's no way that I can make up for my mistakes, but she also got a little hyperbolic with the accusations as well because not all of it was half as bad as she likes to tell other people.

And I was totally jerking off when I got the text, which made it even more awkward! I was thinking about Elizabeth Banks though.

(okay I wasn't jerking off when I got it but I was actually on the phone with my mom, who was kinda shocked at my proclamation of 'What in the fuck...ugh sorry for my language' and then me resuming the conversation with her like nothing had happened)

Well, at least you apologized to your Mother.

Thinking about it, you lost a good opportunity to mess with her. Your reply should have been "I don't have to think of you when I jerk off. I have videos."

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Originally Posted by stelios 

Thinking about it, you lost a good opportunity to mess with her. Your reply should have been "I don't have to think of you when I jerk off. I save those thoughts for my post-Del Taco constitutionals."

FIFY.

I've got a date on Wednesday with an actress/comedian. According to her IMDb, she's been divorced for almost four years, so I'm going to assume she's ready to start dating again. We met last Friday at a restaurant where we both did standup. Funnily enough, my act was about my previous relationship woes. She messaged me on Facebook to tell me she laughed "awkwardly loudly" at my opener. So I guess she understands where I'm coming from.

I'm crossing my fingers that this goes well. Any tips or advice? I'm done pretending I know what I'm doing.

Where was this restaurant? Curious now.

EDIT: "What was", rather. I'm illiterate.

Okay so a little news...

Some background first; last Saturday I had a big arvo out at a pub in the sun with a bunch of mates I only get to catch up with every couple of months. We'd planned it for a while and for some reason I had a hankering for the arvo to evolve into an evening at a gentlemens club. Now, I've been in a strip club maybe three times in my life, always for Bachelor Partys so for the weeks leading up wasn't sure where this urge came from outside of wanting to stretch newly single legs and be a bit of a boy. It wasn't until the week before I realised last Saturday would have been my eleventh anniversary with my ex. Things got a little clearer at that stage.

Aaaanyway, so we have our fun arvo and there happens to be a pretty respectable gentlemens club nearby and its still early enough that entry is free. In we go and from the first minute or two we're in there I drunkenly latch eyes on a rather curvacious young blonde lass and we get chatting. Now I have this crazy notion of talking to most people the same so am happy simply talking to this lass as if we've met in a pub and, as a consequence she seems to be enjoying being spoken to like a human being for a chnage. Turns out she's english, here for a few months and wants to be an actress. Saw what she was doing was a sort of Louis Theroux studying of a sub-culture by trying out being an exotic dancer. My mates leave, we keep chatting for over an hour, then after I ask if she'll get in trouble for just chatting, offer to pay for a dance.

After a dance in which she said I got a few 'extras', I asked if I could contact her after work sometime (I know, I know), she took my phone number and email and said she'd like to contact me.

The next morning I awoke with a sore head, feeling very foolish for having bought into the whole thing drunkenly the night before, chalked it down to a good day and night anyway and promptly tried to forget the whole thing.

Then she left me a message on my phone yesterday saying hi and asking if I remembered her.

...and now we have a date next week.

My life right now man.

A Night He Won't Remember..
A Night He'll Never Forget

Michael Fassbender

in

RAIN DOG

A Film By Steve McQueen

Was it a text or a voicemail?

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Originally Posted by Art Decade 

A Night He Won't Remember..
A Night He'll Never Forget

 

Michael Fassbender

in

RAIN DOG

A Film By Steve McQueen

 

I know right?!?!?!?!

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Originally Posted by mcnooj82 

Was it a text or a voicemail?

Voice message from a land line, then called her back on her mobile - she thinks I'm "foonny". Took 35 years, but that had to pay off sometime.

Must've been a treat to hear her voice after that moment of doubt.

Good luck to you, Rain Dog. I've dated a couple of exotic dancers myself (you know what a magnet I am for emotionally unavailable women), and it's fun while it lasts...and from my experience, it usually lasts about two to four weeks.

Oddly enough, I was the guy they both dated before they met the guys they ended up marrying. My life is a Dane Cook movie.

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Originally Posted by The Rain Dog 

Voice message from a land line, then called her back on her mobile - she thinks I'm "foonny". Took 35 years, but that had to pay off sometime.

It seems to be the day for it. I just got "favorited" by a lovely & hilarious lass on OkCupid & I sent a funny note to her today. On her profile, she'd written how she was basically a "Cold War Super-Soldier" who was grown in test tube by rogue Russian scientists. Very funny & cute stuff.

I wrote back how I was "no stranger to feats of wonderment myself" and that  I "possess the strength of 20 drunken midgets! I can leap small children in a single bound! I have the cat-like reflexes of a frightened chihuahua!".

I look forward to her response.

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Originally Posted by Art Decade 

It seems to be the day for it. I just got "favorited" by a lovely & hilarious lass on OkCupid & I sent a funny note to her today. On her profile, she'd written how she was basically a "Cold War Super-Soldier" who was grown in test tube by rogue Russian scientists. Very funny & cute stuff.

 

I wrote back how I was "no stranger to feats of wonderment myself" and that  I "possess the strength of 20 drunken midgets! I can leap small children in a single bound! I have the cat-like reflexes of a frightened chihuahua!".

I look forward to her response.

It's wierd, the last week or so I've gotten a couple of nibbles over there myself. I've updated my profile pic to one that better shows how much thinner I am and made my profile a little more irreverent and a little less dull.

It's our year tho baby - dragons all the way. ;)

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Nicely done, RD my man. However...

...I don't mean to be a spoil sport, but as somewhat of a frequenter of "gentlemen's clubs" you should approach such things always with a level of reserve and detachment. I'm honestly not being judgmental of anyone. Rather speaking from second hand experience. Have fun though. 

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Originally Posted by stelios 

Nicely done, RD my man. However...

 

...I don't mean to be a spoil sport, but as somewhat of a frequenter of "gentlemen's clubs" you should approach such things always with a level of reserve and detachment. I'm honestly not being judgmental of anyone. Rather speaking from second hand experience. Have fun though. 

Approach the date with reserve and detachment or the club itself?

The date. The club you approach with wild abandon and all the money you are comfortable with wasting, in cash. No credit cards.

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Originally Posted by stelios 

The date. The club you approach with wild abandon and all the money you comfortable with wasting in cash. No credit cards.

So you're saying...

...don't be early wild and crazy Steve Martin, be later era reserved Steve a bit more?

Not just play it cool. Be cool, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, don't mind me. I'm naturally suspicious and always trying to find everyone's angle. I just consider you a friend (as much as the context allows) and I tend to be pretty protective of them.

Awww thanks stel, the feelings well and truly mutual. I'll keep my guard up and not let myself get too carried away. There's a horny teenager inside me permanently doing this right now...

...but I'd like to think at 35 I can keep him on a leash these days.

Good work there, RD!

Have some good news to report myself. Have met a woman on OK Cupid - funny, intelligent, has a theatre background like me and does drama workshops with the disabled - and it's looking promising so far. The first date was last Friday, and ended with us making out rather heavily in her car for a couple of hours, and she's invited me to her place tomorrow night, with all the signs pointed towards a very, very good time.

Am keeping my head about it and not making too many assumptions so far. She seems extremely keen, and has been keeping in touch with me all week, but at the same time I know from experience that these 'hormone detonation' early dating experiences have a tendency to burn out pretty fast. So I've decided to not overthink things and just enjoy the experience, and it'll end up where it ends up. I haven't worked out yet whether she has intentions of anything deeper, but either way that's something I prefer to work on slowly these days. It's certainly a possible, she seems great, but having rushed into relationshiphood in the past I'm very much of the 'let's let it pan out' frame of mind.

Anyway, I'm also in contact with a couple of other women who interest me and want to see if anything develops there. My guts says 'probably not', mind; both of them have been pretty slow in responding to emails, which makes for sluggish conversation. It's the only real problem I find with OK Cupid - a lot of the women I'm meeting seem to prefer long, drawn-out email exchanges, often with a few days between replies. I just find it a bit lacking in spontaneity which IMO is key to transitioning from online chat to actually asking someone out. I think I'll give it a little while longer and see if things improve in the name of exploring my options, but if they don't and this other girl remains just as keen I have no problems with shifting my full attention to her in a timely fashion.

Hm. Hopefully that doesn't make me sound conceited. I'm a late convert to the idea of keeping your options open in dating, but I've always found it a difficult balancing act. But juggling issues aside, things are going well on the dating end over here!

Make no mistake RD, high fives are definitely warranted. And for Worky, too. Fuck it, high fives for everyone!

Cheers, man. Right now I'm following the policy of 'Cross fingers, trust it'll all pan out the way it needs to and have fun'. I always skipped that last part in the past, but fuggit. I'm slow, but I get there. Just like British Rail.

RD, I stared at the word 'arvo' for five minutes trying to figure out what that was short for. I didn't think aardvark made sense, though I don't know how you let your freak flag fly. Thank god google exists to decipher your Aussie slang.

Kudos to you and to everyone who's getting dates. Must be a change in the weather. People break up after the holidays, but before Valentine's day, then realize they're miserable alone, so bam, everyone's all up in one another.

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Originally Posted by Doc Happenin 

RD, I stared at the word 'arvo' for five minutes trying to figure out what that was short for. I didn't think aardvark made sense, though I don't know how you let your freak flag fly. Thank god google exists to decipher your Aussie slang.

 

Kudos to you and to everyone who's getting dates. Must be a change in the weather. People break up after the holidays, but before Valentine's day, then realize they're miserable alone, so bam, everyone's all up in one another.

Also, Feburary's when roofie season starts.

What? What're you all staring at?

Congrats, RD! As others have said just have fun with it. Don't make her out to be THE ONE, which can be tempting after coming out of a long term relationship. If it goes somewhere great, if not great. just relax and enjoy the ride.

My boys are getting laid.  Momma's so proud!

Just to add to all the good news....things are looking very good for me. I'll share a bit more as things develop, but I'm poised to dive into a relationship with someone who's smart, single, hot, and not only tolerant of my nerdiness but shares it. And we know each other pretty well, so any speed bumps that come our shouldn't be surprises and we should be well equipped to navigate them.

Cross your fingers, offer up some firstfruits, and think good thoughts. 

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Originally Posted by HarleyQuinn22 

My boys are getting laid.  Momma's so proud!

Very soon, I'm hoping!

still so lonely

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Originally Posted by Jake 

still so lonely

And yet you don't respond to PMs? Sadness....