Dating Tips/Advice - Page 175
Be polite but be direct. Rip that band off. You think she's a terrific person, but there's not the spark you need, and you don't want to be the kind of person who gives the impression there's hope or desire for something long term and serious.
You can try the friend thing, but from what you've described, you run the risk of the opening sequence of events to recur. After a while you'll think, hey, maybe if I just try harder or relax or whatever, things will be better. Then you'll go out, physical chemistry will work, and then you'll be in regretland again.
Or not. Dunno.
Just be honest. If she's really into you, I'd say "Lets just be friends" is probably out. Otherwise maybe suggest you guys have a casual No-Strings-Attached relationship if you're into that idea.
So I met this woman who is 5 years older than me (she is 41 to my 36) ....
One of the hardest things to accept about the world of dating and intimacy is that you cannot negotiate attraction. Period. No matter how many boxes your cerebral brain may check off, if it isn't there, it isn't there.
This is your opportunity to tell her you have 20+ other women texting you!
Which you shouldn't do, but it's tempting, yes? I advise simply not answering. She's benching you, Ambler. Move on.
I don't see the harm in talking. Just don't let her talk you into anything. Just be that same honest Ambler. But whatever you do, don't lead her on.
And if you don't? Just fake being really REALLY bad in bed. No hurt feelings. Everybody wins!
Good advice for life too.
Silly. If your hand falls asleep it's that much easier to pretend it's someone else.
These kids today.
It's called hoovering - look it up. Ditch her. Move one.