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post #9951 of 10019
I have my moments.
post #9952 of 10019
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bradito View Post

I have my moments.

"Not many of them, but you do have them."

*Bradito floats away with the debris*
post #9953 of 10019
Thank you all!

I proposed at home. My original plan was huge, but I talked myself out of it. Then my backup plan didn't work out. So it was simple at home, and a shock, and she loved it.

My backup plan was straightforward, we travelled down to Penticton where her folks live this weekend. We were traveling with our dog. We had a long day of driving and I made an impromptu stop at my favourite Kelowna winery Mission Hill. Its a gorgeous winery, built to look like a Tuscan mission. http://www.missionhillwinery.com

I had to drag her out of the car, she was hangry and worried about the dog. I was trying to bring her over the bell tower, and then a bus load of tourists showed up. Her being cranky started making me paranoid that she knew what I was going to do, and she was being a pain to dissuade me. So I chickened out, knowing I could do it simply on VD.

Hey it worked.
post #9954 of 10019
post #9955 of 10019

BRAD HOW DARE YOU???

post #9956 of 10019
I had to go to the bathroom!

At home.
post #9957 of 10019
I wonder if that guy was doing it for kicks, or if he was on some kind of fucked up crusade.
post #9958 of 10019
I actually always offer to pay for everything, including their future meals and any meals they may have eaten before we met.
post #9959 of 10019
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Originally Posted by Bradito View Post

I actually always offer to pay for everything, including their future meals and any meals they may have eaten before we met.

Wanna go out?

post #9960 of 10019

The long-distance thing never works!

post #9961 of 10019

post #9962 of 10019

Are you trying to make me vomit all my keyboard, Freeman?

post #9963 of 10019
Quote:
Originally Posted by MichaelM View Post
 

Are you trying to make me vomit all my keyboard, Freeman?

 

Why are you eating your keyboard?

post #9964 of 10019
Quote:
Originally Posted by TzuDohNihm View Post

 

Why are you eating your keyboard?

 

post #9965 of 10019
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bradito View Post

The long-distance thing never works!

It worked for Comedy Podcast Pioneer Keith Malley of the long-running Keith and The Girl show. A trans-Atlantic thing no less, until his Irish boo finally finished architecture school and jetted over from Ireland. Then they moved in together. Then they got married. That was about 4 years ago I think.

Then they separated a month or so ago.

Why am I even bringing this up? Because those who've been on the sideline of the dating game for aeons need to live vicariously through the thrills and spills of those who remain in the fray. Like perhaps my main man Keith Malley will soon be again.

Like my other main men, the heroes of this epic thread.


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Edited by Bucho - 9/10/17 at 8:42pm
post #9966 of 10019
post #9967 of 10019

Wait, your dick isn't small...

post #9968 of 10019
Tell her!
post #9969 of 10019
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Originally Posted by Bradito View Post

Someone filmed my gf breaking up with me.

Probably NSFW.

 

Man, I do not get slam poetry. 

post #9970 of 10019

I may not have any dates lined up. But I DID break a five year dry spell Saturday night. Did a lot to give me a little confidence boost. 

post #9971 of 10019

Yikes.  Congrats.  Don't know how you didn't die.  

post #9972 of 10019

The wizard powers I developed in the interim were a cool balm. Kind of bummed I lost 'em now. 

post #9973 of 10019

Sort of like breaking vegan pledge.  Milk and eggs bitch!

post #9974 of 10019
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Originally Posted by Codename View Post

I may not have any dates lined up. But I DID break a five year dry spell Saturday night. Did a lot to give me a little confidence boost. 

My source is reporting it was a cute girl from Bloem who was in town visiting a friend.
post #9975 of 10019
Anyone else ever find themselves in the same bad dating patterns? I'm drawn like a magnet to women who are aloof and basically indifferent to my existence (and often depressed) while typically repelled by the ones who show genuine interest. It's kinda got me down, and questioning how I wound up here and how to readjust myself after 16 years of ingrained behaviour.
post #9976 of 10019
Why are you repelled by women who show interest in you?
post #9977 of 10019
I used to the do the exact same thing.

I've been married for 5 year and I've know my wife for 10 years. I can still remember all the times I rejected advances by women, who were clearly interested in me, because I was hung up on another woman that was completely unattainable and totally wrong for me.
post #9978 of 10019
And I've been married to catartik's wife for six years.
post #9979 of 10019
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Originally Posted by Bradito View Post

Why are you repelled by women who show interest in you?

Groucho had a decent enough explanation.

This last week I've started having repeated sex dreams about my ex. Not cool, subconscious, not cool.
post #9980 of 10019
For the past two weeks, I've been having repeated sex dreams about your ex!
post #9981 of 10019

Is this where we reference the friends with exes thread?

post #9982 of 10019

I've been having dreams about a couple of my exes lately, too. Nothing to do with sex, oddly enough. Just weird relationship-y dreams. Residual feelings coming up when I should be swinging lightsabers and riding dinosaurs.

post #9983 of 10019

Actually been reconnecting with and chatting with my ex (who's engaged now...) for the last few weeks.  It's actually been pretty cool cause it cements I'm fully over her now and have moved on. 

 

To be honest, I was just relieved to here she's ok cause she ghosted me so fucking hard I honestly thought she died (she lives in Cape Town). 

 

 

But I feel Episode29 on the "We want what we can't have" front. I have this friend, now I KNOW she's not interested in me in that way and I KNOW it won't happen like ever. But every time I see her dem feels pop up and I'm just like "You motherfucking idiot". 

post #9984 of 10019

Speaking of dry spells, this thread has been in one way too long. Imma need Brad to begin humiliating himself for our amusement again.

post #9985 of 10019
I just got engaged to Codename's ex.
post #9986 of 10019
Why am I repelled? I dunno, fear of success? There's something about being approached by someone legitimately interested that sets off my flight response. Been the case forever.

Whereas I've had this on-and-off flirtation thing with a girl at work (we're in different departments) that sucks me in everytime. Never mind that she's wildly inconsistent in her behaviour (Totally icy one day, bubbly the next) or that I logically know very, very well that it's a total dead end. I mean, every time I spend any amount of time talking to her it's painfully evident we can zilch in common (she once told me she can't remember the last time she laughed) and would probably loathe one another. And yet my tunnel vision keeps kicking in when my time and energy would be far better served ANYWHERE ELSE. And she's only the latest example of this trend.

The craziest part is that I'm a lifetime anxiety sufferer and I've spent the better part of it pursuing relationships that actively trigger it. Stability be damned!
post #9987 of 10019
Perhaps you are just afraid of being stuck in a relationship where you have no interest in the person.
post #9988 of 10019
Yeah, I'd say there's some of that too. Not sure why I'm seeking the opposite though. There has to be a better middle ground...
post #9989 of 10019
Because you might be only concerned with your own interests and not the other person.
post #9990 of 10019
He can't help being so interesting!
post #9991 of 10019
I'm just confused by the description. How can someone be bubbly but never laugh?
post #9992 of 10019
Like really smiley and flirty?

Minus the laughter.
post #9993 of 10019
Go on a date with her.
post #9994 of 10019
We did go out once. It went fine enough (minus the absence of laughter), but then I got actively snubbed for over a week and disengaged. But I was never rude in any way, and have always maintained a friendly attitude.
post #9995 of 10019
I'm already over this girl.
post #9996 of 10019
Can we switch places?

But seriously, I'm not fishing for tips on how to deal with this one girl. I know it's a dead end. More looking for some advice from those who have been in my shoes on how to break the cycle I keep repeating.
Edited by Episode29 - 9/22/17 at 5:03pm
post #9997 of 10019
You break the cycle by taking more risks and chances. Do things you wouldn't normally do.
post #9998 of 10019

Like kidnapping!  Girls like spontaneous men.  

post #9999 of 10019

My lord, this thread.

post #10000 of 10019

I know, we're just CRUSHING it lately with good advice.  

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