Dating Tips/Advice - Page 200
I proposed at home. My original plan was huge, but I talked myself out of it. Then my backup plan didn't work out. So it was simple at home, and a shock, and she loved it.
My backup plan was straightforward, we travelled down to Penticton where her folks live this weekend. We were traveling with our dog. We had a long day of driving and I made an impromptu stop at my favourite Kelowna winery Mission Hill. Its a gorgeous winery, built to look like a Tuscan mission. http://www.missionhillwinery.com
I had to drag her out of the car, she was hangry and worried about the dog. I was trying to bring her over the bell tower, and then a bus load of tourists showed up. Her being cranky started making me paranoid that she knew what I was going to do, and she was being a pain to dissuade me. So I chickened out, knowing I could do it simply on VD.
Hey it worked.
It worked for Comedy Podcast Pioneer Keith Malley of the long-running Keith and The Girl show. A trans-Atlantic thing no less, until his Irish boo finally finished architecture school and jetted over from Ireland. Then they moved in together. Then they got married. That was about 4 years ago I think.
Then they separated a month or so ago.
Why am I even bringing this up? Because those who've been on the sideline of the dating game for aeons need to live vicariously through the thrills and spills of those who remain in the fray. Like perhaps my main man Keith Malley will soon be again.
Like my other main men, the heroes of this epic thread.
Edited by Bucho - 9/10/17 at 8:42pm
My source is reporting it was a cute girl from Bloem who was in town visiting a friend.
I've been married for 5 year and I've know my wife for 10 years. I can still remember all the times I rejected advances by women, who were clearly interested in me, because I was hung up on another woman that was completely unattainable and totally wrong for me.
Groucho had a decent enough explanation.
This last week I've started having repeated sex dreams about my ex. Not cool, subconscious, not cool.
I've been having dreams about a couple of my exes lately, too. Nothing to do with sex, oddly enough. Just weird relationship-y dreams. Residual feelings coming up when I should be swinging lightsabers and riding dinosaurs.
Actually been reconnecting with and chatting with my ex (who's engaged now...) for the last few weeks. It's actually been pretty cool cause it cements I'm fully over her now and have moved on.
To be honest, I was just relieved to here she's ok cause she ghosted me so fucking hard I honestly thought she died (she lives in Cape Town).
But I feel Episode29 on the "We want what we can't have" front. I have this friend, now I KNOW she's not interested in me in that way and I KNOW it won't happen like ever. But every time I see her dem feels pop up and I'm just like "You motherfucking idiot".
Whereas I've had this on-and-off flirtation thing with a girl at work (we're in different departments) that sucks me in everytime. Never mind that she's wildly inconsistent in her behaviour (Totally icy one day, bubbly the next) or that I logically know very, very well that it's a total dead end. I mean, every time I spend any amount of time talking to her it's painfully evident we can zilch in common (she once told me she can't remember the last time she laughed) and would probably loathe one another. And yet my tunnel vision keeps kicking in when my time and energy would be far better served ANYWHERE ELSE. And she's only the latest example of this trend.
The craziest part is that I'm a lifetime anxiety sufferer and I've spent the better part of it pursuing relationships that actively trigger it. Stability be damned!
But seriously, I'm not fishing for tips on how to deal with this one girl. I know it's a dead end. More looking for some advice from those who have been in my shoes on how to break the cycle I keep repeating.
Edited by Episode29 - 9/22/17 at 5:03pm