Originally Posted by JacknifeJohnny
Sounds like the same excuse people have for using the word "fag". I'm not complaining, just making an observation. These things always fall apart when people try to make distinctions and justify usage.
Sure, tear me an asshole for this, but "retard" actually applies to stupid behavior in that people who are mentally handicapped (aka "retarded") are, well, not smart. So really, you call someone or something retarded, you're saying that it is acting like, or conceived by, someone who has a brain injury.
"Fag" or "gay" as applied to something that isn't so good (that JOHN CARTER movie was gay) is a little uglier. Really, my experience of homosexuals is generally that they're....um, pretty much like everyone else, as far as wanting to get married, have kids, have nice stuff, etc goes. Exceptions made for some gay clubs, where gay guys are FAAAABUUUULOOOOOUUUSSSSSS. (and, as an aside, love the shit out of me for some reason. But I digress....)
N*****....ugh. Worst part is that gangsta rappers embraced the word, which made for a nice and confusing double standard for all people involved. I think I've used it once in the presence of a black person, and I was doing a Chris Rock routine for him; fortunately he thought it was pretty hilarious (*large exhale* at the time, because I knew I was taking a swim in shark-infested waters; but he knew me, we were cool). But yeah, if there's one word I could erase from existence, that would be on the short list.
In the sense that all 3 words are taking things a person has no control over, and using that to equivocate their condition (mental handicap, sexuality, race) is "bad", yeah, it's pretty indefensible.....
....and you've gotten me to reconsider using "retarded" and I'm not going to do it anymore.