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Everything stopped making sense again today.

post #1 of 5
4/3/03 at 4:34am
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A friend of mine, one of my very best friends, lost her father early Wednesday morning. Her mother lost a battle with cancer less than half a year ago.

I don't know how I'll feel when I go back home tomorrow to see her. I just want to hug her and not let go. I want her to know that I'm always there for her and she doesn't have to be afraid. I want to give her the strength to make it through this no matter how bad it hurts. I have no idea what to say to make her feel better and I'm scared.
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post #2 of 5
4/3/03 at 4:54am
S.W., be there for her in any way she needs. Do a lot of listening and a lot of hugging or give her space if that is what she needs. While you can't fix things for her or make them go away, you can be there by her side to ride out the worst.
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post #3 of 5
4/3/03 at 5:10am
The best thing you can do is just be there for her and support her. Listen to what she needs and try to do what you can to help her through it. There is no making sense of death. It fills you with confusion and doubts, but it is something we all have to deal with eventually. Two of my best friends lost their fathers in the last year, and I lost my only grandmother. We can only try to enjoy the time we have with the people we love, and remember them for the good times that made us love them in the first place. I don't know how I would feel if I lost both of my parents so suddenly. It would be very difficult to move on, but I know my parents would want me to continue to enjoy my life.

There is a lot of sadness when someone dies, but there is also celebration of that person's life by the people who meant the most to him or her. Sometimes being a friend means doing nothing at all. Just your presence and the courage you can show for her will do the most good.
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post #4 of 5
4/3/03 at 10:34am
Sorry to hear that, man.
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post #5 of 5
4/9/03 at 10:37pm
Sorry to hear that. Just remember, time heals all wounds.
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