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post #1 of 34
10/19/03 at 1:59pm
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I gotta go see about a girl.
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post #2 of 34
10/19/03 at 2:20pm
Game over.
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post #3 of 34
10/19/03 at 2:25pm
I didn't expect you to desert us, Verbs.
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post #4 of 34
10/19/03 at 2:41pm
Quote:
Michael 'Verbal' Rabattino:
I gotta go see about a girl.
Son of a bitch stole my line...
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post #5 of 34
10/19/03 at 2:49pm
Verbal doesn't have a brother, right?
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post #6 of 34
10/19/03 at 2:50pm
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I haven't really posted much at all lately, but now the time that I would be posting might be occupied with something else.
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post #7 of 34
10/19/03 at 2:56pm
The greatest trick the Devil ever played was pretending he didn't lurk.
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post #8 of 34
10/19/03 at 3:15pm
Damn. Bateman, Biscuts, and now you, Verbal. My brothers in hyperbole.

I'm gonna be the last single bastard on these boards.

E-NOOGIE.

You know I love ya, brother man.
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post #9 of 34
10/19/03 at 3:27pm
I've learned a lot from friends through how they deal with having a girlfriend or wife. Most prove to me that friends are something that you enjoy between relationships and something you sacrifice when you get into a relationship.

I can count on one hand the close friends who've managed to not drop everything in their lives. With fingers to spare.
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post #10 of 34
10/19/03 at 3:30pm
Unfortunately, I was one of those guys who dropped everything for a woman who demanded it.

It almost killed me.

Keep it all in perspective, including the woman, Verbs.
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post #11 of 34
10/19/03 at 3:34pm
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I'm not dropping anything, i'm just trying to let you guys know what the deal is. You're like family, all of you.

If any of you guys need anything, to talk or what have you, give me a call:

856-466-6864

I'm not gonna be gone by any stretch, but like others have said in the past....I need to take a semi-break.
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post #12 of 34
10/19/03 at 3:37pm
Great. Good for you. And like it's been said before, just take the break. No need to start a thread.
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post #13 of 34
10/19/03 at 3:42pm
Well, thats cool man. Just take a break and have fun with this girl.
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post #14 of 34
10/19/03 at 4:30pm
Have you and this girl met yet?
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post #15 of 34
10/19/03 at 4:37pm
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Quote:
Saucy:
Have you and this girl met yet?
Known her for years, only recently met up with her again after not seeing her for a couple years.

What i'm not mentioning here is that she has the same boyfriend now that she had then.

This poses a problem.
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post #16 of 34
10/19/03 at 4:44pm
You and he should race toward a cliff like that Paula Abdul video. You know, last one to chicken out gets the girl.

Chicks dig it when you battle to the death over them.
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post #17 of 34
10/19/03 at 4:47pm
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Interesting idea...
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post #18 of 34
10/19/03 at 4:54pm
Don't you think it might be premature eradication from the boards?

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post #19 of 34
10/19/03 at 5:11pm
Alternatively, you could kidnap him and let him slowly wither away in your basement starve dungeon.

Your girlie will be all, "OMG WHERE'D MY BOYFIRNED GO" and you'll be all "WTF I DONT' KONW GET OVER HEER AND GIMME SOME LUUUUUUUV" and she'll be all "OMG LOL OK."
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post #20 of 34
10/19/03 at 5:18pm
It puts the address in its webbrowser and posts its pictures on the net.
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post #21 of 34
10/19/03 at 5:22pm
Quote:
Blofeld:
Don't you think it might be premature eradication from the boards?
Well, maybe he wants to spend his time pursuing the girl. Although, I must admit it would be easier to go for a girl not already in a long-term relationship.
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post #22 of 34
10/19/03 at 5:25pm
Yeah, that's probally not the best idea.

But he's gotta do what his heart tells him. And the implication of his first post is that this girl is THE ONE, the one he's meant for, the one he knows he will always be with forever and ever.

And he knows it, too.

So I wish him the best of luck, and everyone else should too.

'Tis not our buisness to interfere with matters of the heart, but all we can do is support our friends when they need us to be there for them.

I think...
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post #23 of 34
10/19/03 at 5:39pm
Maybe Verbal's going to that Queer Eye show?
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post #24 of 34
10/19/03 at 5:55pm
Verbal, meeting chicks isn't that hard. And this girl's in a long term thing. And if she's been giving you signs, it's probably not cause she likes you, but to make a point to her boyfriend. Or because she wants out of the relationship, so you would probably be a bouncing spot. Either way I don't know if that's what you're looking for.

Just the same, perhaps you posted this to remind yourself what to do, and I understand you may need that fire under your ass to accomplish something (indeed, that seems to be your M.O.). Just the same, Yoda had a good point about the whole do or don't thing.

Just remember to not be scared. No girl is the only girl, and rejection is just the nature of the game. And a game is all it is. But this sounds like a bad situation you shouldn't be pursuing.

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post #25 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:00pm
My post: made ironic because of my sig.
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post #26 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:08pm
As someone who's done what you're about to do one too many times,I gotta say: drop it immediately. Trust me, there's about one chance in a million that she'll dump the other guy for you, even moreso if they've been together for years. Better quit early than get a major heartbreak later.
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post #27 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:15pm
Nick was on the money with this one. Don't be the guy that stops hanging out with his friends because of a girlfriend, and then when things end (if they do) reappear and act like no time has passed. Women come and go, man.
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post #28 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:36pm
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To comment on Rath saying I believe this girl is THE ONE, he's right.

All I can really say.
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post #29 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:41pm
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I feel guilty about NOT making threads like this, to tell the people I care about how I feel, but then when I DO make them I end up regretting it.
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post #30 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:46pm
Mike/Verbal, the problem isn't our opinion, it's that your pining after someone who's taken. As Blunt agrees with me, this is a bad, bad, bad situation, and one that generally doesn't end any other way but bad.

There is no "The one." It's illusory, and sometimes even "The One" at a certain time in your life isn't "The One" a couple weeks later. I say this because you seem to be an amateur Casanova. Unless you have an in, let it go now, before you ruin your realtionships with this girl and her boyfriend.
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post #31 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:48pm
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It's not at all the situation you might think it is.

Tidbit #1- we sat there in my car while she called her boyfriend, who had to stay at work late, and proceeded to lie to him as to where she was.

Now, you're probably gonna say, "if you go out with her, she'll cheat on you too", but i'm willing to trust her. She means that much to me. If this all blows up in my face when she does dump her boyfriend (and "when" is a strong word...i'm just going on hope here) I don't care, because that's a risk I wanna take.

We know what each other is going to say next. She laughs at everything I say. She always has. She's impossibly interested in whatever I say. We constantly talk about movies. Hell, she's the one I saw The Station Agent with. She loved it, and it was a change of plans from the film we were going to see. She's content with just sitting in my car for 2 hours after a movie instead of doing something stupid like bowling that people usually do.

I look at her, and I get lost, and I can't remember WHY she's out with me because she's so strikingly beautiful that it's impossible she'd be with me.

Hey, i'm not holding my breath. I don't expect her to dump her boyfriend. I'm just gonna be waiting here for when she does, because i'm not gonna let her get away. Ever.
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post #32 of 34
10/19/03 at 6:50pm
Verbal...if she's not married, GO FOR IT. Boyfriends don't mean shit. Some of my best ex's were woo'd away from others. All's fair and all that.
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post #33 of 34
10/19/03 at 7:07pm
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SC, I request closing this thread. Gonna keep this to myself from now on.

Not particularly because of anything anyone said, but because this might have been a bit premature/bad idea. Whatever. If you could close it i'd appreciate it.

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post #34 of 34
10/19/03 at 7:08pm
Some of my best ex's...

On the one hand, I'm psyched for you. I have no allegiance to the other guy and yeah, I a firm believer that if there is no ring on the finger, s/he is fair game. On the other hand, they are all your ex's. As much fun as those girls were, they weren't "the one" for you.

Normally I wouldn't bring that up. I don't belive in the notion that there is only one love of your life. But if there is a Ms. Right out there, I have to point out, its not going to be with someone who is already taken. I'm sorry, verbal, but it sounds like you just have a crush.

You admit to not having seen her in years. She's been in a long term relationship. You two meet back up again and everything is fun and exciting and new. But that will fade. And unless you have a strong foundation upon which to build a relationship (and breaking up her current relationship is the exact opposite), it won't last.

I say this not to discourage you. But I've been in your shoes, it ended disasterously, and I lost a really good friend because of it.

Be her friend first. Take it slow. If something develops, cool. But don't force it.

And remember...do what feels right for you. You can choose to take our advice or not. Just make sure you can live with the decisions you are making. Good luck.
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