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Have you ever fallen in love?

post #1 of 60
2/17/04 at 3:09am
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I've fallen once. It was not mutual.

You?
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post #2 of 60
2/17/04 at 3:20am
Yes...
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post #3 of 60
2/17/04 at 4:37am
1. Personally, I think that everyone has.

2. CT, when the fuck did you get 11665 posts? I can't believe that I just noticed that.
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post #4 of 60
2/17/04 at 5:05am
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Originally posted by CTDeLude
Yes...
(jumps up and down) I know her, I know her! (stops jumping up and down)

And yes, I fell in love once. I think everyone has at least once. Even it was just for a few minutes in second grade.
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post #5 of 60
2/17/04 at 8:37am
Yes, and I married her.
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post #6 of 60
2/17/04 at 8:42am
Yes. It ended badly.
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post #7 of 60
2/17/04 at 9:57am
Is it love when you can't stop thinking about a person?

If so, then yes.
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post #8 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:55am
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Originally posted by Michael 'Verbal' Rabattino
Is it love when you can't stop thinking about a person?
No. That's "infatuation" or, perhaps, "obsession."

"Love" is not about how YOU feel, it's about what you do for the other person to impact how THEY feel. It's about the kind, supportive words; it's about setting time aside, even in the face of outside, pressing demands; it's about every big and little action you take that positively impacts THEIR life.
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post #9 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:59am
Yes, still with them after 5 years, too.
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post #10 of 60
2/17/04 at 12:07pm
More times than I can count. I give my heart away too easily.

Most times ended badly. The last time VERY badly.

The current love is going swimmingly.
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post #11 of 60
2/17/04 at 12:43pm
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Originally posted by Agent Back Smith
1. Personally, I think that everyone has.

2. CT, when the fuck did you get 11665 posts? I can't believe that I just noticed that.
Eh, one day I looked down and WHAM!, there they were...


And yes Seahawk, you know her...
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post #12 of 60
2/17/04 at 1:17pm
Most people probably think they have, but when you really truly fall in love with somebody you realise that what you once thought of as love was really just an infatuation. I know people who, by their own admission, really never have been in love.

As for me, yes, I have. For reals. And one year on from the very, very rough "ending", I still haven't totally recovered.
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post #13 of 60
2/17/04 at 1:24pm
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Originally posted by mrstiffie
Yes...and it ended badly with Dances with Chainsaws.

...You broke my heart. I really did love you....but I just wasn't enough for you. You used me...I hate you...no, I didn't mean that...I'm sorry...I...I'm just hurt so deeply because of you. When I was with you, I was happy for the first time in my life....now I'm alone....it hurts to know that after you cast me aside, you just moved on so easily....like I didn't even matter. I would've given you the world....Excuse me, I have to be by myself now.....
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post #14 of 60
2/17/04 at 2:30pm
god yes... but I guess it wasn't mutual cause after living together for 3 years he left and met someone else in two weeks and married them.. Of course 8 years later he still calls me so we can meet up...

and still I wait...

I hate men
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post #15 of 60
2/17/04 at 2:33pm
We're definitely a hateable group....
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post #16 of 60
2/17/04 at 6:17pm
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Originally posted by Blofeld

"Love" is not about how YOU feel, it's about what you do for the other person to impact how THEY feel. It's about the kind, supportive words; it's about setting time aside, even in the face of outside, pressing demands; it's about every big and little action you take that positively impacts THEIR life.
Haahahahahahahahah....no.

As for the thread title, yeah.
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post #17 of 60
2/17/04 at 6:27pm
Hey, Rath, why don't you pull your head out of your ass for a change? Maybe Matt's definition is hard to apply to an ongoing anonymous infatuation with Christina Ricci, but I think it's a fine definition.
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post #18 of 60
2/17/04 at 6:49pm
Is it love when that special someone shoves away your advances?
Is it love when you find out that you are strangling that special someone?
Is it love when you beat that special someone with a bat, in the face?
Is it love when you destroy that special someone?
Is it love when you kill that special someone?
Is it love when you keep that special someone well preserved and sitting in their favorite chair so that they can be with you always?
Is it love when you do the nasty with that special someone's preserved corpse?
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post #19 of 60
2/17/04 at 6:52pm
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Originally posted by Rex Hudler
Hey, Rath, why don't you pull your head out of your ass for a change? Maybe Matt's definition is hard to apply to an ongoing anonymous infatuation with Christina Ricci, but I think it's a fine definition.
You're almost funny.
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post #20 of 60
2/17/04 at 7:02pm
Rath - shut the aitch-eee-double hockey sticks up.

Blo - Bra-freakin-vo. To quote DC Talk (a dangerous thing I know), "Love is a verb."

Yes I have and almost 11 years (8+ married) and two kids later I still do.
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post #21 of 60
2/17/04 at 7:31pm
I've been over Ricci since tenth grade. Check your facts.
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post #22 of 60
2/17/04 at 7:31pm
Oh, and I've followed Matt's advice plenty a time. Even to the point when it means walking away.
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post #23 of 60
2/17/04 at 9:03pm
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Originally posted by mrstiffie
Here we go with that again. I was in a different place then than I am now (prison) and a different person. Besides, it was you who threw my beenie babies on the lawn, in the rain, and you knew they'd be worth somethihng someday. That was my retirement!!


YOU LOVED THOSE BEENIE BABIES MORE THAN ME! You never had time for me...oh no....Every single moment was spent with those...those...things. I was never good enough to spend time with. All of your attention went to them. I did what I had to do to get you to notice me....and let me just tell you something, mister.....When I chucked those damned beenie babies off of that porch...I, for the first time in my life....felt free.....
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post #24 of 60
2/17/04 at 9:26pm
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Originally posted by Rath/Brendan
Oh, and I've followed Matt's advice plenty a time. Even to the point when it means walking away.
If the other person has never met you it doesn't count...
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post #25 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:02pm
YES! and he IS the most wonderful person I have ever met!!!
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post #26 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:07pm
Yes, I have fallen in love.

I would agree with what Jennifer said. Now that I have the real thing, what I thought was love before was anything but. So how do I know what real love is? When all is said and done, I would do anything for him--and I mean anything. He's the person I think about before I go to bed, the person that I think about when I wake up in the morning, and the person that I talk about at any given point in between. He makes me happy and makes me a better person. That's love, my friends.
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post #27 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:09pm
Blo is right...in my case, at least.
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post #28 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:11pm
You DO take alot of efforts to positively improve Rath's life. It's sweet, really.
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post #29 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:15pm
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Originally posted by Rex Hudler
Hey, Rath, why don't you pull your head out of your ass for a change? Maybe Matt's definition is hard to apply to an ongoing anonymous infatuation with Christina Ricci, but I think it's a fine definition.
What's wrong with Christina Ricci?
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post #30 of 60
2/17/04 at 10:20pm
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Originally posted by Donald Wiskerando
You DO take alot of efforts to positively improve Rath's life. It's sweet, really.
I'm devoted, what can I say?
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post #31 of 60
2/17/04 at 11:50pm
By Blo's standard, no, I haven't. Not yet, anyway.
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post #32 of 60
2/18/04 at 2:47am
And to answer the thread question, keeping in mind my definition: yes ... and it's ended badly. That happens. And yes, I'm willing to go through it again ... and I think it just might be happening.
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post #33 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:41am
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Originally posted by Blofeld
And to answer the thread question, keeping in mind my definition: yes ... and it's ended badly. That happens. And yes, I'm willing to go through it again ... and I think it just might be happening.
Whew....faster than I can manage!
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post #34 of 60
2/18/04 at 4:52am
I fell in love with a girl, I fell in love once and almost completely.

And then I married her.
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post #35 of 60
2/18/04 at 11:23am
One time (using the stricter Blofeld definition), but nothing came of it.
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post #36 of 60
2/18/04 at 11:26am
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Originally posted by CTDeLude
Yes...
And it's too bad for you she's not there any longer...like Seahawk, I've met her...
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post #37 of 60
2/18/04 at 11:28am
Oh yeah, the thread...no comment. I'm too old to give a flying fuck any longer. And yet, I fall in love at least twice a week.
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post #38 of 60
2/18/04 at 12:51pm
Yeah, I played that game of Blofeld's. What do I get for my trouble?

Well, I move away to go to school one day in 2002. Three days later I'm near death in the hospital. The Lass says she'd come up to help out when I'm released. Comes the day, I phone and ask when her bus would be in. She tells me she changed her mind because "I don't sound excited enough."

I turn down sweet jobs across the country because I promised I'd come back here when school was done. What do I hear? "I'll believe it when I see it." So back I come because I keep my word. Not even a "I'm glad you're back."

I ask you: am I expecting too much?
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post #39 of 60
2/18/04 at 1:33pm
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Originally posted by Kronos
And it's too bad for you she's not there any longer...like Seahawk, I've met her...
Who knows my friend I can never say never. There could be something down the line, but before I can even think about it, I have to get my own ass in gear.

In all honesty, I've been quite bummed about it suddenly. You guys haven't helped either. She is quite a special person isn't she?

More the reason to get my ass in gear though...

*grumble grumble everyone getting engaged grumble*
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post #40 of 60
2/18/04 at 1:35pm
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Originally posted by Seabass Inna Bun
Yeah, I played that game of Blofeld's. What do I get for my trouble?

Well, I move away to go to school one day in 2002. Three days later I'm near death in the hospital. The Lass says she'd come up to help out when I'm released. Comes the day, I phone and ask when her bus would be in. She tells me she changed her mind because "I don't sound excited enough."

I turn down sweet jobs across the country because I promised I'd come back here when school was done. What do I hear? "I'll believe it when I see it." So back I come because I keep my word. Not even a "I'm glad you're back."

I ask you: am I expecting too much?
Holy heck man!

All I can see in that forecast is bitterness...
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post #41 of 60
2/18/04 at 1:52pm
Past tense. I moved back here to Calgary last August as promised, and put the kibosh on the relationship two weeks later.

She did come up and take care of me when I needed it, she just made me beg a little is all. But not believing my promise to come back...I'd feel better if she'd slept around. I'd have been okay with that.
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post #42 of 60
2/18/04 at 2:59pm
Wise descision on your part my friend. Lesser men would have taken the abuse just for the "lay."
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post #43 of 60
2/18/04 at 2:59pm
Here's the thing: you've got to choose correctly.

You can act by the terms of my definition, not have any of that reciprocated -- and then you're just a "chump" in love.

But if you've chosen well, and you have someone special who RECIPROCATES, then both people's needs are met, unselfishly, and the relationship is a beautiful thing.

"If we can be the best of lovers,
Yet be the best of friends,
If we can try with every day to make it better as it grows
With any luck then I suppose
The music never ends."

And Chris, it didn't happen so suddenly. I've been separated for over 2-years. Divorce finalized just about 1-year ago. Started dating fairly recently ... and have taken about 1/2 a dozen ladies for a test drive (heh ... there's some mysogeny for you, Devin), and have now found a very likely candidate for an extremely special and long-term relationship.

It's all in the choosing carefully.
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post #44 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:05pm
Ah...see I thought you were talking about the one Dev jumped all over you about as the one that is gone....

I see I was wrong...

Best of luck to you my friend in further endeavors. We're not supposed to be alone on this earth...
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post #45 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:10pm
"Love" is not about how YOU feel, it's about what you do for the other person to impact how THEY feel. It's about the kind, supportive words; it's about setting time aside, even in the face of outside, pressing demands; it's about every big and little action you take that positively impacts THEIR life."

I find this to be a very pedestrian definition of love. I mean, you can manufacture and fake kind, supportive words. You can set time aside even if you don't want to. And your partner can do the same and be faking it also. So if you do that, is it still love?

I agree with Joan:

"Definitely, most definitely, talking about love is like dancing about architecture."
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post #46 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:13pm
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Originally posted by CTDeLude
Wise descision on your part my friend. Lesser men would have taken the abuse just for the "lay."
The sex was the pits too.
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post #47 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:15pm
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Originally posted by Kirby Drummond
So if you do that, is it still love?

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"Definitely, most definitely, talking about love is like dancing about architecture."
If you're being honest, then it's a hell of a lot better definition than "I think about her all the time."

And, I agree with Joan, too.
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post #48 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:19pm
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Originally posted by Seabass Inna Bun
The sex was the pits too.
Lesser men, lesser men...
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post #49 of 60
2/18/04 at 3:19pm
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Originally posted by Blofeld
If you're being honest, then it's a hell of a lot better definition than "I think about her all the time."

And, I agree with Joan, too.
Yea, the thinking about her all the time rap really doesn't make the relationship reflect that love, that's for sure...nor grow in it...
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post #50 of 60
2/18/04 at 4:34pm
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Originally posted by Social

I would agree with what Jennifer said. Now that I have the real thing, what I thought was love before was anything but. So how do I know what real love is? When all is said and done, I would do anything for him--and I mean anything. He's the person I think about before I go to bed, the person that I think about when I wake up in the morning, and the person that I talk about at any given point in between. He makes me happy and makes me a better person. That's love, my friends.
Replace the "him" with "her", the "he" with "she" and that's what I feel too. I've fallen in love twice, and got it right the second time.
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