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post #1 of 13
10/14/04 at 3:00am
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I was going to write a whole huge post about people who don't care about another persons feelings (not mine but an acquaintance) because they are to caught up in their own bullshit to care even a little, but it just urks me way to much to write it out.

The jist is that someone I know is going through a difficult situation and someone who used to be a close friend of theirs is just ignoring her and not talking to her. I pretty much went after him telling him to go talk to her and try to comfort her a little bit. He just said "I'm have to much of my own stuff to deal with". And the ting is he gets pissy about really fucking stupid things, like lifes little annoyances. This guy is pretty much just an ass but he is friends with a good friend of mine. Otherwise I'd tell him to fuck off.

It takes alot, alot to make me mad but when someone disregards a friends or anyone elses feelings because of bullshit I will call them out on it. Just grrrrrrrrrr so mad.
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post #2 of 13
10/14/04 at 3:13am
I simply don't understand bastards like that. I've never understood how they actually manage to get into close relationships with people in the first place.
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post #3 of 13
10/14/04 at 3:15am
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Its the fact that they don't care about someone elses feelings. Especially someone who they know in any capacitiy.
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post #4 of 13
10/14/04 at 5:40pm
I went on a mission of sorts a couple of years back to prune people like that from my life. I've got too many other, more important, people to deal with, and life's to short to waste time worrying about bastards like that.

It wasn't easy, and I still have work to do, but I think I'm happier for it. I have more time and energy to devote to my real friends.
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post #5 of 13
10/14/04 at 5:53pm
Um, just to put it in perspective, once a friend of mine wasn't able to 'comfort' or talk to a friend who had just lost a boyfriend via a breakup, and she used the same line and everyone thought she was a horrible bitch but you know what?

She had just lost a baby, and didn't want to tell anyone about it, because they hadn't annouced they were pregnant yet. So maybe you should cut your "jerk" friend some fucking slack because if he says he has "too much of his own stuff to deal with" maybe his mom has cancer, or he's going through an series of medical tests or just flunked out of school. Maybe he really does have his own freaking issues...
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post #6 of 13
10/14/04 at 6:17pm
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No I know the whole story and this guy isnt a friend of mine but a friend of a couple of friends of mine (damn long fucking scentince) . This guy has a history of getting pissy for no reason, such as hitting a speed bump and acting cranky all day long. This girl's boyfriend lost family and she was obviously hurting alot. He didnt want to deal with it because he was all mad about himself doing poorly on midterms.

What happend with her was that her boyfriends family lost family in that Egyptian hotel blast. She is going to have to go with him to go identify and bring back the bodies. A huge difference to say the very least.
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post #7 of 13
10/14/04 at 6:19pm
Well, it's not like he KNEW those people...
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post #8 of 13
10/14/04 at 6:21pm
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Huh?

He is a friend of hers. She most likely would like to have a friend of hers talk to her. I mean shes out in the main lobby, its not like she was locked in her room.
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post #9 of 13
10/14/04 at 10:39pm
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Originally Posted by Brian Ross
The jist is that someone I know is going through a difficult situation and someone who used to be a close friend of theirs is just ignoring her and not talking to her.
They used to be close friends? So they aren't really friends anymore?

If so, I can understand him not beng a shoulder to cry on for a casual aquaintance if he has his own problems.
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post #10 of 13
10/15/04 at 9:22am
How well did your friend know these people who (sadly) died? It seems to me that her boyfriend needs comfort, not her.

I too become frustrated when people "take on" others grief. I think if it were your friend's family, then this kid is, yes, a jerk. However, it seems there is a few degrees of separation between her and the deceased and maybe she does need to distinguish between empathy for her boyfriend and her own personal grief.
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post #11 of 13
10/16/04 at 2:27am
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Originally Posted by Optimus Prime
I went on a mission of sorts a couple of years back to prune people like that from my life. I've got too many other, more important, people to deal with, and life's to short to waste time worrying about bastards like that.

It wasn't easy, and I still have work to do, but I think I'm happier for it. I have more time and energy to devote to my real friends.
Were Bumblebee and Wheeljack to much of a bitch to put up with? :-)
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post #12 of 13
10/16/04 at 2:29am
Cliffjumper is a really weepy drunk.
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post #13 of 13
10/18/04 at 5:04pm
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Originally Posted by Bruno Antony
How well did your friend know these people who (sadly) died? It seems to me that her boyfriend needs comfort, not her.

I too become frustrated when people "take on" others grief. I think if it were your friend's family, then this kid is, yes, a jerk. However, it seems there is a few degrees of separation between her and the deceased and maybe she does need to distinguish between empathy for her boyfriend and her own personal grief.


Her boyfriend's family is like a family to her. Not to mention that fact that I've said she will probably have to go to Cario with him to pick up the bodies. Jeez talk about 20 questions.
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