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post #1 of 46
10/21/04 at 2:06am
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I'm feeling so damn depressed today. It's raining and it's cold, figuratively and in reality. I'm all alone, and I mean really allllllone, and Guns and Roses' "Patience" is playing in the background, yeah I know I'm lame...

I've had my fair share of rejection, you'd think I'd be used to it by now. But this one, while not a full out "never gonna happen" sorta thing, just really hurt because this time I'm really into this girl like I havn't really ever been before.

And it isn't so much a physical thing, although to my eyes she's very attractive, it's more because she's just one of the damn sweetest girls I've ever met. And she's intelligent, creative, she's a geek (YAY!), we seem to be in agreement as far as politics goes, and we attend the same college and share a few classes.

She just seems like such an interesting person, the very sort of person that I'd like to be with and that I'd think I was most compatible with, but the question was asked and the request was denied. She'll go out, but it's just "as friends".

Really wasn't expecting that reaction because she did seem pretty interested in me. So I'm not sure really if she doesn't want to date right now, or what.

And while I certainly don't want to do something that'll end the friendship that we're developing, I just don't want to pretend like that's all that I'm interested from her, and at the same time I don't want to push her away by like brooding all the time, but damn it I'm just tired of being all alone.

So what's a guy to do? Advice anyone?
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post #2 of 46
10/21/04 at 10:38am
I can share that same sentiment...except it's with a guy who works at the Barnes & Noble in Plainfield, IL. I hardly get to see him, and I have been so reluctant to say anything when I tried to catch him because I didn't want to hear "No". So, I just had to give him up. I didn't want to seem like I was stalking him.

But it just really irritates me that whenever I find someone I like, they're either married, gay or dating a girl that doesn't deserve them. It's really gotten to that point that if I hear "I'm sure you'll find someone", I will punch that person in the face.

But I did have a really bad case of rejection that ended up with me too upset to see any of Ioan Gruffud's movies...which leaves me at, "How the hell am I going to see that 'Fantastic Four' movie when seeing him fills me with hurt?!"
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post #3 of 46
10/21/04 at 11:17am
I have learned that few girls will positively respond to a direct request for a date these days, unless it's someone they've really had their eye on for a while, or they're, you know, sluts. It used to be a formal and romantic gesture to do that, but these days it's apparently creepy. I don't know if girls think you'll expect sex right away, but every time I've ever asked a girl out that I didn't know too well, they looked at me funny.

On the other hand, if you start up a normal conversation and develop a friendship, you have nothing to lose. I've made many valuable relationships with great female friends this way. You may realize while you were initially interested in them as a potential mate, you may not be right for eachother and still find meaning in a platonic relationship. There is of course, the possibility that something deeper will develop.

You'll get a lot of bullshit advice like "if it's meant to happen, it will," or "It will happen when you stop trying" but that's for people who dont care what happens and just want to get laid. Anyone can get laid. If you want a relationship that means anything, you have to work at it. And that means working at a start, too. You've got to rely on your gut feelings, but also be rational about compatibility issues. It sounds like you've started to do this, so that's good. You've got to give the object of your affection the appropriate amount of space, but don't let them forget you're at least interested.

In short, my advice is to go out with her "as friends" like she suggested. Just be yourself and you might have a good time. She knows you "like her" by this point, so if something else comes from it, then you're set. But be patient.
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post #4 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:04pm
Feeling alone in Sin City-go get a hooker. Or a drunk tourist later tonite. Cruise the bus depots looking for runaways.
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post #5 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:13pm
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Originally Posted by Daryl Zero
I have learned that few girls will positively respond to a direct request for a date these days, unless it's someone they've really had their eye on for a while, or they're, you know, sluts. It used to be a formal and romantic gesture to do that, but these days it's apparently creepy. I don't know if girls think you'll expect sex right away, but every time I've ever asked a girl out that I didn't know too well, they looked at me funny.
I think you've hit the nail on the head here Daryl. I've only known her for about a month now, and we've only talked to eachother in or around school or online. She definitely seems like the type of girl that's interested in more of a long term relationship than just dating around (which I'm really not interested in doing).

Seriously I think it'd be great if we did develope a really strong friendship first - just as long as we're both clear that I'm interested in more than that.

I geuss I just need a little patience. Oh it'll also help once I get a new car, and move into my own place next quarter.
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post #6 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:15pm
Fleet up to level 26. They'll be falling at your feet.
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post #7 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:21pm
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Originally Posted by Anyawatchin Angel
Feeling alone in Sin City-go get a hooker. Or a drunk tourist later tonite. Cruise the bus depots looking for runaways.
Seriously, I'm not even looking for sex. Especially not from a street ho. Although I do welcome it, providing it's someone I'm actually interested in. I ain't sayin' no, just not asking for it.


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Originally Posted by FrankCobretti
Fleet up to level 26. They'll be falling at your feet.
Just got a few missions to complete first and I'll be set...
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post #8 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:30pm
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Originally Posted by Daryl Zero
In short, my advice is to go out with her "as friends" like she suggested. Just be yourself and you might have a good time. She knows you "like her" by this point, so if something else comes from it, then you're set. But be patient.
Zero speaks truth.

Also, saying you'll ask her out if the Red Sox win games seems to be helping, at least for me.
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post #9 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:34pm
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Originally Posted by Daryl Zero
I have learned that few girls will positively respond to a direct request for a date these days, unless it's someone they've really had their eye on for a while, or they're, you know, sluts. It used to be a formal and romantic gesture to do that, but these days it's apparently creepy. I don't know if girls think you'll expect sex right away, but every time I've ever asked a girl out that I didn't know too well, they looked at me funny.

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This is just about the funniest thing I've ever read.
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post #10 of 46
10/21/04 at 3:35pm
Do it, Rath.
I had to witness your Contract with God, so ask the girl out.

Back on topic...

Women are the tools of the fair mistress of the flame...Satan herself. I've sworn off women and have dedicated myself to my craft. Don't need them. Loving is fleeting, let it go.

Now, a real kickass statue of Batman fighting Killer Croc...that's forever.
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post #11 of 46
10/21/04 at 4:26pm
I somewhat agree with Anderson (such a statue would rule). As geeks, we all say we're looking for love, but sometimes, it's not what we really need. Now I don't know you, but I know I've been there before too. I thought I was lonely and needed someone to complete me, but as I gained experience from relationships, I found that i'm only interested in one thing, me. The growth of me, physically and mentally.
I find close relationships only steal time from me and even though I'm in one right now, I don't sway from this thought.

Stocism is a very good philosophy for the lonely geek and one that's fulfilling too. I often think of Darth Maul, stoic, alone, and without support on tattoine, but yet he goes about his mission unabated. He doesn't need anyone. He's strong and confident. He knows what his goals are and is unafraid of doing something by himself. The other sith lords are great as well, but I find his one man mission more inspiring. He doesn't say much, but you know his kind of determination and you should try and aspire to acquire it.

When I'm alone somewhere with a task, I think of Maul's mission. And even though he failed, he still did the best he could without any real assistance. He's a warrior, of both the mental and physical arts and I think that that is a great role model. We should strive to acquire more knowledge, strength and confidence and become better people. We don't need anyone else to fulful us, we are our own saviors

Or hey, it might not work for ya farce, but it's something you might not have considered.
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post #12 of 46
10/21/04 at 5:12pm
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Well it's not that I can't make it on my own or that I don't have confidence in my own abilities or any of those things. It's just that I would like to share what I have with someone else and in turn gain from them, that's what it's really all about.

Really the way I view life is that the ultimate goal is love. It's the very reason for exsistance. Without that I'm just alone, while I can survive quite well on my own I just don't see much of a point in that at all. To me, life without love (and not only romantic love) is just a waste.
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post #13 of 46
10/21/04 at 5:15pm
Fuck that, Farce. Don't go into a "friendly" relationship with the girl to get to know one another, not with your current desparate attitude. You're doomed for disappointment. The tension of always wanting something more from her will degrade the friendship. You know what, companionship is important, but going after it with subterfuge is fucked. You've let her know how you feel, she let you know how she feels. Case closed. Move on.
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post #14 of 46
10/21/04 at 7:34pm
I disagree. The fact that she offered to go out as friends makes it seem she's at least interested in getting to know him. If she was totally against the idea, she would have said "I have a serious boyfriend," or "I'm calling the police." True or not. It sounds like Farce isn't doing much anyway, so he could at least go to a movie or something with her, as long as he doesn't pay her way.

As for staying single, when I was single I would say "Well, I want to be in a relationship, but I also want to have a good enough life to be fulfilled even if I never do." The difference between that train of thought and the mindset you gain once you're actually in a serious relationship is staggering. I'll let you figure out how when you actually get there yourself.

I Agree that he shouldn't hold out hope of a romantic relationship, but he also shouldn't disregard an apparently wonderful human being just because she won't do him.
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post #15 of 46
10/21/04 at 7:43pm
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Originally Posted by Daryl Zero
I disagree. The fact that she offered to go out as friends makes it seem she's at least interested in getting to know him. If she was totally against the idea, she would have said "I have a serious boyfriend," or "I'm calling the police."
I agree with this. And as far as I know she isn't in a serious relationship right now (I would think that she would've mentioned that by now). She didn't just flat out say no I'm not ever going to date you, so I think that something more could potentially develope between us. But I'm not going to waste all my energies on that, I'm not going to really pursue that right now. I'm just leaving the door open just in case, but if another opportunity presents itself I'll take it.

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As for staying single, when I was single I would say "Well, I want to be in a relationship, but I also want to have a good enough life to be fulfilled even if I never do." The difference between that train of thought and the mindset you gain once you're actually in a serious relationship is staggering. I'll let you figure out how when you actually get there yourself.


I Agree that he shouldn't hold out hope of a romantic relationship, but he also shouldn't disregard an apparently wonderful human being just because she won't do him.
Truthfully until I'm really set, out on my own, with a car, with some real money coming etc, I don't really want to be in a serious relationship. Because it's just going to fail (can you imagine if it came to a point where SHE was paying all the time? that would be absolutely horrible). Love can take you far but it isn't the means to all things, I mean you have to at least be a somewhat stable and successful person in life.
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post #16 of 46
10/22/04 at 12:21am
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Originally Posted by Anderson
Now, a real kickass statue of Batman fighting Killer Croc...that's forever.
Amen, Anderson. heh.
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post #17 of 46
10/22/04 at 1:38am
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Well shit, I now have a competitor. She doesn't seem very interested though thankfully, but still it ain't a good thing.
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post #18 of 46
10/22/04 at 1:49am
A competitor? I can smell the desperation from here.
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post #19 of 46
10/22/04 at 4:27am
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I can smell the desperation from here.
Well I am a little desperate, but I'm not at the point where I'm just going to settle for anything, otherwise I wouldn't be concentrating nearly as much on this one girl.

Am I desperate (in the sense of being extremely passionate) for her? Yeah, at least as much as Michael Bay missed the mark on Pearl Harbor.

But I'm not desperate in the sense of being hopeless. It might be a challenge to win her over but I havn't lost all hope yet.
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post #20 of 46
10/22/04 at 7:15pm
OK, Farce, I'm disappearing for a while, but I'll leave you with these words of wisdom:

De-link your acceptance or rejection by members of the opposite sex to your self esteem.

You see, dating is all about percentages. Let's assume that you're an average-looking guy. That means that of 10 women to whom you're attracted, 4-6 will be attracted to you. Of them, expect 2-3 to be unavailable. This means that roughly 25% of the people you ask out will say yes. You see, Farce, it isn't about your intrinsic worth as a human being - it's about the numbers. Now, get out there and hit on some cuties!

And remember: Be desireless. Be excellent. Be gone.
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post #21 of 46
10/22/04 at 7:29pm
I'm with Blofeld and Cobretti on this one.

As far as staying friends with her...don't. Because I can see that going sour the instant you think she's starting to soften up. You want her on that romantic level, and it's just implied that the reason you're entering into the friendship is on the hope it will eventually BECOME something more. It's like you're trying to pad a resume in that manner, yunno? She's going to be able to tell that you're being a friend as an end run around her denial. Unless you've completely given up on ever hooking up with her, being her good friend is only going to further prolong the ineffective pining, and chances are the shit will NOT end up good.

The fact of the matter is that you gave it your shot, and she said no. It's best for all to move on, especially if you've noticed you have "competition." And simply because she doesn't sound enthusiastic about him DOESN'T mean a door opened for you--because she's already not sounded enthusiastic about YOU, too. Now, maybe she's just trying to be cool about it since she knows you like her, or maybe she's simply feeding off the obvious attention you pay her, and using it to substitute for an actual relationship until she finds one. Sure, that sounds cynical, but in my experience with all my other friends relationships, as well as my own, the number of denials that have been turned around by sheer force of will are zero. As a matter of fact, my girlfriend had a friend that tried the route Zero is proposing, on her. And, obviously, it didn't work. Because it just got ever more obvious that the friendship ALWAYS had an ulterior motive, so it came off as false, at it's core. And they dont' talk now, because after a couple years of being "just friends" he just finally lost it. People can sense when the intentions behind the actions aren't pure. And if this girl is as intelligent as you say she is--she's gonna catch it. And then you'll be worse off.

if you want to be her friend--be her friend. But you're going to have to completely cut out any romantic feelings for her in order to do it, otherwise the shit will go sour. And if you can't do that, then you're probably going to have to cut off the friendship, as well, and go on with your life.

The alternative will more than likely be a long, depressing, drawn out series of tiny denials that will build up and eat at you worse than this first rejection ever did.
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post #22 of 46
10/22/04 at 7:42pm
This thread reminds me of that great Sam Kinison line:

"Friends? Friends? I've got all the friends I need!"
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post #23 of 46
10/22/04 at 11:16pm
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Originally Posted by FrankCobretti
OK, Farce, I'm disappearing for a while, but I'll leave you with these words of wisdom:

De-link your acceptance or rejection by members of the opposite sex to your self esteem.

You see, dating is all about percentages. Let's assume that you're an average-looking guy. That means that of 10 women to whom you're attracted, 4-6 will be attracted to you. Of them, expect 2-3 to be unavailable. This means that roughly 25% of the people you ask out will say yes. You see, Farce, it isn't about your intrinsic worth as a human being - it's about the numbers. Now, get out there and hit on some cuties!

And remember: Be desireless. Be excellent. Be gone.
Thanks for the advice, I may try that approach. I just need to find some cuties that I'm actually attracted to first. Personality, good taste, and intelligence are a MUST, and there aren't a whole lots of girls that I've noticed that really embody those qualities like she does. To me looks are secondary, not unecessary - just not quite as important to me as the other stuff.

Seriously. I wasn't even really attracted to her when we first met (although it was pretty hard not to notice that she was very cute), it built after I got know her.

But really I am feeling pretty good about this girl, and just about myself today. Today we just talked alot, took pictures, hung out, and it was really nice. I really feel good about just being friends with her, she knows how I feel and I don't think I really need to go out of my way to remind of that. I'll just let the chips fall where they may and if what I'd like to happen happens, then it happens. If not then I'm cool with that, for now at least. Oh and that competitor shit was a false alarm.

Anyway thanks for all your replies everybody, it's appreciated. Even if I don't happen to agree with you.
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post #24 of 46
10/22/04 at 11:42pm
Well, at least you've gotten a bit closer today. I have an online friend who is sorta in the same predicament...except, the guy she likes is openly gay, and even though she's friends with him, she's still heartbroken that it can't be more.
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post #25 of 46
10/22/04 at 11:57pm
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Originally Posted by Countess Anna loves Aussie Dracula
Well, at least you've gotten a bit closer today.
I ain't complaining. It was nice. And now I've got homework. What a way to ruin a perfect day.
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post #26 of 46
10/25/04 at 12:24pm
Well if it makes you feel better, none of you are worth my fuckin'.
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post #27 of 46
10/25/04 at 3:20pm
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Originally Posted by Uncle Mitch
Well if it makes you feel better, none of you are worth my fuckin'.
(sniff) (sniff) ...Uncle Mitch...?!? How...how could you!!??!?!
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post #28 of 46
10/25/04 at 6:59pm
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Well as it turns out all my fear and anxiety really was over nothing.

If it's only as a friend I can't say for sure, but I know this girl really likes me, she made that very clear today.

We're going to see Slayer in concert, I don't think I can officially call this a date, but lets just see how things develope from now until then.
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post #29 of 46
10/25/04 at 7:04pm
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Originally Posted by The Farce
we're going to see Slayer in concert.
How romantic.
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post #30 of 46
10/25/04 at 7:30pm
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Originally Posted by gravedigger
How romantic.
Ain't it though?
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post #31 of 46
12/6/04 at 4:54am
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Ok, I geuss I'm over her...

This last Friday night was amazing. I went down to the Art District here in town as I do the first Friday of every month for their big shindig where you go to meet cool people, look at art, and enjoy the free wine and food. But this was definitely my best experience there so far.

I was hanging with my friend Hamilton and we were about to leave when we ran into two bodacious babes (whom we had sort of met the month before at the last First Friday thing) who invited us to go along with them.

So we were drinking Absinthe and some other stuff with these two fine ladies, Rachel and her cousin Brittney (Rachel was - well shall he say a bit horny, because she was all over me, unfortunately not just me, but still it was kinda nice), and enjoying the art and everything and then we all met up with their utterly gorgeous friend Gina, who is from England and now lives here.

We hit it off pretty good at first because we both happen to have a keen interest in science, especially astronomy, specifically we were discussing all those new nifty planets they keep discovering in other solar systems, and it just went on from there.

So after a stop for some booze we left to go hang out elsewhere, and on the way I just sat in the back of the car with my arm wrapped around Gina, and just holding her hand and stroking her beautiful, black, curly hair. And she really liked me doing that. So by the time the night was over she had invited me to go out with her to the Museum of Natural History, and I imagine we'll do some other stuff. So I'm gonna go with her for sure and have a good time and try to work my mojo, and we'll just see how things go.

I've just kinda given up on Jenny (the girl we were previously discussing in this thread), I love her, she's my friend. But she's made it very clear that she just doesn't want to date anyone right now. She just has some real personal issues to work out on her own. As a friend I'm there for her we'll still hang out, I'll still go to that Slayer concert with her, but I just can't wait around forever. Especially not when I have such a lovely lady showing interest in me, I'd be a damn fool not to pursue it.
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post #32 of 46
12/6/04 at 5:56am
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when we ran into two bodacious babes
Narly!
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post #33 of 46
12/6/04 at 7:37pm
Sort of anti-climatic, but sounds like your confidence is up...and that's always good. Until the next rejection, that is.
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post #34 of 46
12/7/04 at 1:34am
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Well I think I've (re)learned a good lesson, and that's that I'm a great guy with alot to offer a woman (not that I'm being really egotistical about it), and there are plenty of women out there.
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post #35 of 46
12/7/04 at 4:00pm
What would you do
If I sang out of tune
Woulds you stand up and walk
Out on me ?

Lend me your ears
And I'll sing you a song
And I'll try not to sing
Out of key
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post #36 of 46
12/17/04 at 3:34am
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Well I am over her guys.

We've been hanging out alot lately especially last night, when we went to see Slayer along with 2 other bands, Mastodon and Kill Switch, in concert (and it totally ruled BTW) and then I bought her dinner and spent the night at her house. We've really been getting to know eachother better and the bottom line is that we're better off just being friends.

She's such a great girl though and for alot of reasons I really would like to be with her, but for other reasons I know that it would just be a huge burden on me because she really has (or at least feels that she has) some deep issues that she needs to deal with, including that she's still not over the last (and first) guy she dated, and that was over two years ago. She's calls him her X, then she says she still loves him, wants to get back together with him yadda yadda...and that's cool with me, I mean whatever makes her happy.

Hopefully things will work out with me and this other girl Gina. She's very much like Jenny, but without all the baggage.
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post #37 of 46
12/17/04 at 4:56pm
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I don't live with my parents.

And I'm over being desperate, I'm really really cool right now, but thanks for the advice anyway.
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post #38 of 46
12/17/04 at 11:10pm
Glad to see things have turned up a bit man. Good luck with Gina.
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post #39 of 46
12/19/04 at 8:22am
Hey Farce, about the same happened to me.

Fell in love with a girl about 2 months ago, and man it got me. There are not many girls that spark my interest, but from the start on I knew it's her. In my eyes, she's the most beautiful person - and I'm really not easily saying something like that. She's just so wonderful in everything she does, says, is and I can't help myself but love her. It went so far I'd spend the rest of my life with her, and I'm dead serious but that. It's not that I haven't had a girl-friend or fallen in love before, but with her it's just so much more. Can't describe it.

It went like this. One day, I asked her out for a movie (The Forgotten), she said yes and I was quite happy bout that. Went to the movie... and I screwed it. Tried to take her hand, which she rejected and said something stupid.. and almost directly after the movie, I was hitting the train home. Wasted.

Next day I apologized for my dumb behaviour and she said the "well, let's just be friends" phrase. That week I was so down, and it hurted to see her every day (university). Then, all of a sudden on the next friday, she went to me and asked ME if I'd like to visit her in her new flat on the weekend. YiKEs!

I was there and we spent the evening on her bed, watching 40 days 40 nights and talking about this and that. I missed my train later on and slept in her bed that night (she in another room), but it was fine.

I was amped the next days and we got out some more times, but always with some other people. Since then, everything looked fine. Than there was the competitor. One of my best friends. Argh. Then came my birthday. Partied in a disco and when they greeted me, she didn't let go of me for minutes. Later on she embraced me again, so long that the others all noticed it. That was great, felt like a KING that night.

And now ? Nothing. Asked her 2,3 times for a new date but she has never time. On occasions, she's sweet to me, more than a usual friend. Tested her for the last two weeks and stopped mailing and talking to her, wanted to see if she comes from herself, shows interest, but nada. Thursday I asked her if she'd be interested in joining a dancing course with me - which she declined. No interest in that course. The same evening my competitor told me he was asked by her if he'd do the course with her. AND he said NO, because he's just no longer interested in her. WTF?

Did she play with me? Did he lie to me ? Whatever. I'm tired of being so heavily influenced, so I'm taking distance. If she's interested, she'll need to show me.

Actually, I'm already over her, at least mostly. I'm spending days and nights writing screenplays, and that makes me feel good. That and the bootylicious professor's assistant that flirted with me yesterday. No feelings attached, but it feels good to be approached by someone like that.

I still love her, though.

Playlist? Nine Inch Nails - Something I can never have, U2 - With or Without You, Coldplay - Don't Panic.

Merry christmas.
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post #40 of 46
12/20/04 at 6:24am
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Originally Posted by Chris Myers, TMR
Fell in love with a girl about 2 months ago, and man it got me. There are not many girls that spark my interest, but from the start on I knew it's her. In my eyes, she's the most beautiful person - and I'm really not easily saying something like that. She's just so wonderful in everything she does, says, is and I can't help myself but love her. It went so far I'd spend the rest of my life with her, and I'm dead serious but that. It's not that I haven't had a girl-friend or fallen in love before, but with her it's just so much more. Can't describe it.
That's pretty much verbatim how I feel about Jenny, and I have that other very very fine lady (Gina) that I could probably be with right now, and she is just absolutely beautiful, and she seems to be very interesting, I'd like to get to know her better, but before no matter how hard I would try to go for her I couldn't help but be totally and completely enthralled by this other girl.

I love(d?) almost everything about her. I love her accent, her eyes, her smile, her complection, her contagious laugh, her weird taste in food. I love that she tries so very hard to make me think that she's a total bitch but it just doesn't work for her because she's such a sweetheart. I love that she gets so nervous and stressed over small things, I love that she's such a perfectionist when it comes to her artwork. And my god, she has the most beautiful vioce. I can't fucking wait until we put our band together, because we would so totally make a great duet.

If this girl would just say yes I would probably give up everything if I had to just to be with her. I would marry this girl. I love her family, I've had the opportunity to meet them and stay the night in their house, some of the kindest people I have ever met.

Right now she's kind of messy, and I don't really care. She's bites her nails down to the quick, she doesn't do much with her hair, she doesn't dress her best (although once in a while she'll slap on a skirt, and her stalkings, and these tall leather boots...), but I don't even care because she has this amazing personality and she's so talented and ahhh...yeah she's great. She doesn't think she is though or doesn't want me to think that, she tried to convince me she wasn't very photogenic and she wouldn't let me take very many pictures of her...then I saw some pictures of her from back when she was 19, and wow. I couldn't believe it. She was just so absolutely gorgeous, and sensual, and she had this really cool ethereal and sorta gypsy vibe to her....

But we're just friends (for?) now. But I don't think she's being totally honest about how she feels about me. She told me that we could be really good friends, but we couldn't be more than that, then I talked with her sister about her and I heard a pretty different story. But whatever. I'm not going to wait around forever for her to come around, I'm going to move on, and then I'll bet she'll be wishing she had giving me the chance to be with her.

Gina on the other hand she has this whole "I only watch shows like Nova, and The Discovery channel, and I'm a totally hot half-Mexican babe born and raise in England" thing going for her. And I'm really into that, so we'll see how things go with her. She's alot like Jenny, like I said, but not so much emotional baggage. She's seems to be more the type of girl that would let me have my way with her. Let me wine and dine her and take her dancing and take her traveling around the world with me and whatever else like I would really love to do. And that's great. So we'll just see how things go...
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post #41 of 46
12/20/04 at 10:34am
These are the threads the FBI needs to bookmark in order to reference when dead bodies start showing up near universties.
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post #42 of 46
12/20/04 at 4:15pm
LOL, I had forgotten about this. It's funny reading what I wrote now even though I really do mean what I say even if I had used a totally out there analogy. (Just thought Farce would understand with a star wars one )

I hope my girlfriend never stumbles in here. I'll probably be with her for a while, (maybe forever), but I'd never be able to explain away my kind of self love

Oh and Farce, as a fellow geek, I'm glad you're riding the ups now and have possibly found what you're looking for.
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post #43 of 46
12/20/04 at 6:01pm
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Originally Posted by Imperator GAC

I hope my girlfriend never stumbles in here. I'll probably be with her for a while, (maybe forever), .
RED FLAG, FBI! RED FLAG!
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post #44 of 46
12/20/04 at 6:04pm
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Originally Posted by Imperator GAC
Oh and Farce, as a fellow geek, I'm glad you're riding the ups now and have possibly found what you're looking for.
Thanks, I sure hope so. If not, my eyes are still peeled, I'm on the look out. But I don't look like I'm on the prowl, I'm hunting casually.
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post #45 of 46
12/20/04 at 6:18pm
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post #46 of 46
12/21/04 at 4:51pm
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Originally Posted by BobClark
RED FLAG, FBI! RED FLAG!
No worries...I work for the government. I'm watching.
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